Rude 5 year old son

[Becky99]

My 5 year old has started to be so bloody off-hand and rude to me this past few months. I'm aware that the influence of school is strong and am more than 'happy' to chastise him but its getting me down. All I seem to do is nag him and correct him. He's not like this with his Dad. I have a 1 year old too and am worried what he makes of ot all. I was a capable secondary school teacher for 10 years but full-time motherhood is WAY harder!!

What do you think?

ahh kids.
i would just say something along the lines of "X, I will not be spoken to like that. it is rude"
if he carries on say "X, if you keep speaking to me like that you will have to go out of the room"

ignore as much as possible

Sigh, with my 5yo dd it is the cheek and the attitude. She's obviously getting it from school and testing it out on me, so I'm letting her know it isn't on! I've just resigned myself to the fact that parenting seems to involve a lot more nagging and correcting than I had previously bargained for, and praying that I will reap the rewards of it in the future!

Try completely ignoring and praising when he speaks nicely. Difficult to do, but it really works. Just say we speak nicely to each other then turn away, consistently taking no notice. I did a parenting course recently and we were recommended to write house rules together, one of these could be 'we speak nicely to each other.'

Perhaps it's related to wanting to get attention as you have a one year old (not saying this is the case, just an idea). He can get noticed if he's rude and gets a reaction.

I found 'How to Talk so Children Listen and How to Listen so Children Talk' very useful, I keep meaning to reread it.

Becky, interesting to hear being a secondary school teacher was more difficult than motherhood, what a challenging job, I don't think I could do it!

oh yes we have this here too
5 yr old ds seems to think he's the head of this household
sometimes he says things like 'go and get me a drink Mummy'
to which I politely remind him to say please,to remember I'm not his servant and not to be so rude
I have also taken to saying 'you don't talk to your trachers at school like that so don't talk to me like that'
I sound like my mum more and more