6 year old - nothing else works than the rewarding chart

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I started to notice that explaining things to my 6 year old daughter doesn't help much. I mean not at all. No matter if i explain to her that she hurts somebody else with her actions or if she can hurt herself, nothing seems to make sense to her. the only thing that works is the reward chart, black dot, pink star. And i get worried, since at 6 years old she should be able to undersatnd she is not alone in thwe world. What shall i do?

Maybe have a word with her class teacher. She/he should have noticed if their are any problems with her language / social development.

Hi ShannaraTiger, we already thought abt such issues, thank you. the teacher still insists that nothing is wrong, everything is just fine. i guess we should look a bit deeper into problems that she might struggle with.

I have a 5.5 yr old dd. Explaining why she shouldn't do things over and over just makes her 'zone out', tbh

I have found that getting her to think about what the consequences of what she's doing may be is far more effective

with children, how you say things is just as important as what you say
it might be worth just taking a step back and making sure you are not doing the wagging finger parent thing
at her age you should be able to reason with her
she should be aware her actions affect other people
and she should be able to take responsibility for her actions

Eric berne has a lot of good advice in his transactional analysis about communication
transactional analysis

That is exactly what i was talking about, sorry if i was not clear enough. She doesn't seem to understand/ listen, comprehend ... when i try in million ways to explain to her what the consequences might be and the only thing that seem to reach her are the immediate rewards, or lack of rewards for the day (black dot/ red star). I'm so tired and feeling like i'm just talking to the walls most of the times.