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Dummy cold turkey

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chelseamorning · 26/04/2009 21:30

My DS (2.5) has used a dummy generally only for sleepy time. We've been thinking about weaning him off them for a while and so have made a conscious effort not to replace them when they split.

Last week, I noticed that his last dummy was split and told him that we needed to put it in the bin - which he offered to do himself. I also told him it was his last one and that we didn't have any more. He seemed to accept this at the time.

Today is now the 7th day with no dummy and he is still having problems settling for his lunch time nap as well as in the evening. It can take him 2-3 hours to get to sleep at night and he often wakes up a few times before morning. He asks for his dummy when we put him to bed or if he's tired but we just say that he put it in the bin and we don't have any more.

There are two main problems. He's finding it really difficult to get off to sleep as he used to make a special sleepy noise when he sucked his dummy. Because he now doesn't have a dummy, he gets upset and says 'I can't make the noise, mummy!' as if the sleepy noise itself is as much of a comfort as the dummy. Also, when he's overly tired because he's missed his lunch time nap, he becomes very upset in the evening and we're finding it difficult to calm him down.

We've also noticed that he's starting to put a finger, or a couple of fingers, into his mouth when he's tired. A dummy substitute perhaps.

AIBU to make him go cold turkey like this? I thought he'd accepted the fact that there were no more dummies but do you think we should have had a better plan? Any suggestions please????!!! Do you think he's ready to give them up? We've managed 7 days now without one so do you think we should just persevere?

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chelseamorning · 26/04/2009 21:41

Please?

I know this subject has been done before many times but I'd appreciate any advice.

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chelseamorning · 27/04/2009 08:41

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seeker · 27/04/2009 08:49

If he only uses it for going to sleep I would let him have it - can't see a problem unless he is using it during the day.

I would go for the line of least resistance if I were you!

elliepac · 27/04/2009 09:43

We eventually managed to move away from night time dummy at 3 1/2. We tried many times before but gave in every time because he would just cry and cry and then cry some more and we , rather selfishly i do believe, just wanted to go to sleep. In hindsight I wish we had persevered the first time we tried. So my advice would be to carry on now you have started because if you give in now it will be even harder the next time and, in our case, the time after that and the time after that. Short term pain, long term gain.

chelseamorning · 27/04/2009 13:22

Many thanks for the replies.

Elliepac, we told him we didn't have any more dummies so it's going to be really awkward to somehow produce one. If he knows we can go and buy more, he won't be able to accept 'no more dummies' in the future.

It's horrible to hear him having problems getting off to sleep when I'm the one who gave him the dummy in the first place and I'm the one who has taken it away. I feel rotten!

However, it is day 8 now and I think we'll just keep plodding on. I thought he'd adapt more quickly to not having a dummy but perhaps he just needs more time.

I do miss his sleepy noises though. It was a cross between a yodel and an impression of Jimmy Saville!! Bless him.

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EverySingleStar · 27/04/2009 13:25

Chelsea my brother used to make funny noises whilst using a dummy as a child. When Mum finally kcicked his habit, he used to put a bit of blanket in his mouth and do the same thing - could that work for your son? As long as he's not doing the finger-sucking 100% of the time he sleeps it should be okay.

Maybe some white noise or soft music on?

AttillaTheHan · 27/04/2009 13:30

Could you get him a toy/ blanket that he could have as a reward for doing so well without his dummy? It might act as a distraction as well as a replacement for the dummy... The dummy fairy gave our son a toy panda and he used it to help him get to slee instaed of the dummy. As per a previous post perhaps a taggie type blanket would work?

chelseamorning · 27/04/2009 13:33

Thanks ESS. An interesting idea about the blanket. He's a creature of habit so I won't start him on music as he'll want it every night.

He seems to have totally stopped his sleepy noises now. He is putting his fingers in this mouth occasionally when he's tired which he's never done before so I'll just watch him. Don't want to create another problem!

I've actually put him down for his nap and he seems to have gone off fairly quickly. He is knackered mind you as he was up 3 times last night .

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AttillaTheHan · 27/04/2009 13:38

Thats good, each time he goes off easily without his dummy it should make it easier next time! Good luck.

pranma · 28/04/2009 10:32

Does it matter if he has a dummy to go to sleep?My dgs 2.6 has one and puts it in a drawer when he wakes up.As long as they arent walking around sucking them I dont see a problem at all.His speech is advanced and he is a very happy child.Why deprive a lo of a little bit of comfort?

chelseamorning · 28/04/2009 13:47

That's my dilemma, Pranma.

However he has to have a dummy if he wants to fall asleep. He wants it when we go out shopping if he needs a nap and as he's a big lad for a 2.5 year old, I think it looks awful. He also wants it at home when he's tired and if he goes upstairs to play.

At the moment he's sleeping without the dummy if he's really tired. It's only a problem now if he's just not quite ready to sleep in the evening.

It's now day 9 so we're trying to stick to our guns. He seems to have accepted it, mentions in less but has problems getting to sleep in the evening and during the night if he wakes up. Sleep's for whimps!!!

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