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Tantrumming 5 and a half year old!!

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Weegiemum · 26/04/2009 20:45

Dd2 (dc3) is currently driving me INSANE!

She has had a tantrum almost every day for about the last 5 weeks. Comes out of the blue, usually, and about the most ridiculous things ... wanting fish for lunch as I am in the middle of dishing up toad-in-the-hole (which she LOVES!), wanting to see her grandparents (who's round the world travels we have been following happily on Google Earth for 6 weeks!) ... etc ...

She has a problem in that she has a medium term hip condition that restricts her movement, so she can't play out with her older brother and ssiter int he good weather - she is not allowed to run, jump, hop, skip, walk or even stand for another 4 months until her next x-ray - but I am offering her loads of Mummy time, doing all the things sh e loves sitting at the table!

All of a sudden this has gone form a bit of moaning to full scale screaming at me "you are a liar Mummy there is nothing wrong with my leg!" or "I hate everyone"

I can understand that her condition (Perthes Disease) is causing her some level of stress, and I myself am depresssed at the moment and finding it harder to cope with my rather sparky and strong willed children! But her total inability to listen and her screeching at me is making things hard.

I phoned the school on Thursday to find out if her behaviour is deteriorating there after a week back after Easter and they said no, she is as lovely as ever! I wish she was lovely with me!!!

She is also doing this with her Dad and her CHildminder.

Any advice would be worth it - I try to be calm and listen to her but have had to do a lot of time out as she is really behaving abominably a lot of the time!

I feel like such a bad mother (depression talking I know) - anyone else with kids this age having such tantrums?

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Weegiemum · 26/04/2009 21:08

bump! help!

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Insanity · 26/04/2009 21:30

Maybe it is frustration because she is unable to run around, espicially when the sun is shining.

Most children are well behaved at school and demons at home. Also at school there will be alot of classroom based things she can do with her friends which dont involve the running around.

I really dont know what to reccomend but wanted to reply as Im sure it is heart breaking for you to watch her have these tantrums. She is obviously doing it to the ones she is closet to.

Could she have a friend over to do painting/baking/girlie things with? Perhaps on a Saturday afternoon if you cant doafter school because you work? This may make her feel better and give you abit of free time as she would be occupied with her friend?

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