My 4 year old daughter dosn't seem to like it at home.

[mummyloveslucy]

Hi, my 4 year old daughter has always loved going to her Grandmas house, who lives just around the corner from us.
We've recently been spending a lot of time there as my grand mother in law passed away recently, she used to live with my mother in law.
Anyway, every time we go out and spend time with our daughter she keeps saying "When are we going to Mamma house?".
She dosn't like going home to our house and today she asked me "When am I going home to Mammas house?".
I know at her grandmas house it's a lot buisier and there's a lot more going on, but I want her to be happy at home too.

awww, my 4 yr old is like this too about my mum's house.
I wouldn't worry too much, I am sure she is happy at home as well. but grandma's houses are often very good fun!
just be glad she likes it there too!

what sort of child is she? what does she enjoy?

whatever it is can you make it a "special treat" to do something specific at home?

i have this sort of problem where my 3.8 year old DS says he wants to be at daddys house on the days he is with me.

now we do particular things, just simple stuff like planting things in the garden, cooking biscuits, even hoovering .

and i always say DS is my special helper. i think its important to acknowlege they love being elsewhere but find a niche of things that they only do at home.

not sure if that helps?

My mother in law has a very big house and my daughter loves to ride her scooter all around the house.
Our house is a bit small for that really.
My MIL also has a son living at home who Lucy adores. She also has students.
Lucy loves the great out doors, and gardening. She loves wildlife and farm animals. We have a farm close by and we go and look at the animals together.
If she's at home all she wants to do is watch cbeebies.

aww children! whatever they were put on earth for it certainly wasn't to make us feel good about ourselves!

it sounds to me your dd has a perfectly healthy and normal situation

home and mummy are for boring everyday= security, comfort, a safe centre to the world

grandma is for treats and spoiling and excitement

as it should be

Oh she just loves her grandma's that's all! I bet grandma doesn't get cross and gives her treats etc.

Perfectly normal and great that she's so close to her grandma - it's very good for their immune system, believe it or not, to have a close relationship with grandparents.

It hurts, though, but you need to think of the good things about it.

Oh yes, I am really pleased that she has such a close relationship with her Grandma. She is a very special lady who's raised 4 boys who are fantastic.
I know that she is a very positive influence in Lucys life.
I think we'll have to do more baking and gardening etc together, so that she'll enjoy it at home more.
It also dosn't help that she is still soiling and wetting herself several times a day. She dosn't like being changed and hides, kicks, screams etc. (but that's a whole new thread)
It's starting to affect our relationship, as she always wants Daddy and keeps saying "No not you".
Anyway, we are seing a consultant paediatrician in May, for this and a severe speech disorder.
Fingers crossed she'll get there, before I loose all confidence in my parenting ability.