Capable in-the-loo-wee-er, but never gets there in time

[mellymell]

My DS1 (2 1/2 yrs) 'got' toilet training from an early age and generally is pretty good at peeing in the loo when he is taken. However, getting him to tell us that he needs to go is just not happening. Usually, the wee is practically spraying out of him before he will realise he has to go (followed by much pee-dancing).

Any suggestions - we're doing stickers and we are making sure we are not cross or anything like that if there is an accident? Even if it's just a reassurance that he'll get it eventually and it's just a 'boy-thing', then that would help.

Thanks

ignore it is my advice! ds1 has been through phases of the same thing and IME trying to get him to go just makes him refuse all the more.

we totally backed off and just didn't mention the toilet at all. he had a few accidents which I think made him realise his boundaries a bit lol and he generally gets there on time nwo

Have also been there with dd1

Ignoring and backing off the only way

But IMO if you have to take him every time then he is not toilet trained, YOU are toiletting HIM, iyswim

DD has been a nightmare to train, it has taken a year from when she first refused to wear nappies with good and bad periods in that time.

After a particularly bad couple of weeks of just constantly wetting herself I lost it one day and yelled at her (I'm not recommending that part btw!) and put her back in nappies for a while.

Then I asked for advice on here and someone recommended not rewarding per wee but instead rewarding for a full dry day and it has really worked. We did bigger rewards eg a pack of chocolate buttons, a little pack of stickers or a cheap book. When she did a full week of no accidents we gave her a peppa pig dvd to celebrate. We only had to reward for 2 weeks before she stopped asking for the rewards so luckily it hasn't worked out too expensive!

I think rewarding per wee meant that she was getting so many rewards (we used jelly beans) that she just didn't care about not getting them for the accidents.

claireybee - that's really good advice. I have been rewarding per wee and it doesn't seem to be that effective. He knows if he does a wee that he'll get a sticker - but he even tries to wangle one when he knows his pants are wet.

Thanks everyone.

I can't take credit for it (but nor can I remember who should be taking credit )