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Typical 3yo?

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 20:59

DD is a slow walker, I have a buggy board for her (ds is 2 so still in a buggy) but she doesnt always want it..

Yesterday I asked her to walk a little quicker, she shouted "Don't speak to me, I'm not your friend anymore" ..

I ignored her (not sure if this is the best way?!)..but if she is rude to me I say to her "Please don't speak to me like that, it's rude"....she says "NO, your rude don't speak to ME like that"..

She goes on the 'naughty step' for 3 mins for bad behaviour but I wonder about the rudeness, is this a typical 3yo testing me or is this bad behaviour?

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nancy75 · 19/04/2009 21:01

typical ime, my dd is 3 going on 73!

ishetellingthetruth · 19/04/2009 21:02

My ds does this. Sadly.

DanJARMouse · 19/04/2009 21:03

"im not your friend anymore" is my 3yr old DD2s favourite saying at the moment too.

We make light of it saying that if she is our friends then she cant have tickles, stories, TV etc and she soon changes her tune and loves us lots and lots!

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 21:03

Ahh...ok.....so what do you do?

Ignore or ?

Tia

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DanJARMouse · 19/04/2009 21:03

if she isnt our friend

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 21:04

Dan, Thats a good way!

I've been ignoring her "I'm not your friend anymore" behaviour, either that or I will reply "Fine, ok" and then ignore ..

I wasnt expecting "I'm not your friend anymore" for a few years yet!!

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everGreensleeves · 19/04/2009 21:09

I remember this phase well

I remember saying to him once when he had been really insulting "I get very cross with rude little boys" and he replied "and I'm not very keen on rude little Mummies", I was completely floored

It is typical, I just think you have to have a bit more patience than I did and keep reinforcing kind behaviour and appropriate ways of phrasing things. That way she will duly become an infuriating nitpicker and start pulling you up every time you open your mouth!

HLaurens · 19/04/2009 21:10

DD1, who is not 3 till June, recently told her dad that she wanted to "cut his head off so he would be dead."!

We also get a lot of "don't talk to me any more mummy" and "Mummy go away." She is quite a little madam, but I have to say, DH and I just laugh about it as I find it very hard to take a not-quite-3 year old seriously when they say stuff like this!!

She's a very normal toddler in all other respects!

everGreensleeves · 19/04/2009 21:11

HLaurens that is hilarious what a fabulous sparky child!

there was a post on here ages ago where somebody's little girl was furious at not getting her own way, so said to her mum "if you don't let me xxxx, I will kill Santa and ALL the elves"

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 21:13

EGS, PMSL at "and I'm not keen on rude little Mummies"...

I'm not sure if I have more patience than anyone...I have to stop myself at times for arguing with her and remind myself that she's 3 & I'm 24

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BirdyArms · 19/04/2009 21:13

I get this occasionally from ds1 and always say 'well I'm still your friend' and carry on chatting normally. My theory is that I am showing him behaviour I want him to copy, eg wouldn't want him to copy ignoring me, but in practice it stops me feeling so cross with him and makes me feel like I'm not engaging with his rudeness.

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 21:16

Today I said to her, "Stop doing that" ...she said "really, well do you want to go on the naughty step" ....

She went on the naughty step herself after that ...

The cheekiness of it though! Changing it to me and telling me I have to go on the naughty step!!!!!

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everGreensleeves · 19/04/2009 21:18

It is amazing how imperious such a tiny person can be! The other week ds1 (6yo) starting arsing about struggling and squeaking and generally being a little monster when we left the beach - dh said "stop sulking ds1" and he replied "I am not sulking, I am giving you a conseuence for taking me off the beach"

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Claire2009 · 19/04/2009 21:20

LOL!!!!! Hilarious! They really are!

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TheBreastmilksOnMe · 19/04/2009 21:20

I would answer "well I'm your friend and I love you."

hester · 19/04/2009 21:21

I'm in awe at your bright little nippers. Mine just says, "You are NOT the bestest mummy ANY MORE".

pavlovthepregnantcat · 19/04/2009 21:21

DD said about the cat 'he is not my FRIEND anymore' arms folded, huffy face, after he scratched her because she tried picking him by his ears or something. I am expecting it with us any time with us.

She says 'I angry with you mama' recently.

I am sure it is an age thing (i find it so hard not to laugh though

everGreensleeves · 19/04/2009 21:22

I think that's great that she can say "I angry with you mama" - really emotionally literate!

pavlovthepregnantcat · 19/04/2009 21:24

When I ask her why she folds her arms, looks all stern and says 'dicos I AM!

Dillydaydreamer · 19/04/2009 21:39

LOL this is typical asserting independence and copying you.
I also have a 3yo going on 13!
I told her to say bye bye to her friend who was leaving, her reply was 'no, I'm not in the mood really!' I told her it was rude not to say bye and that its bad manners. I also said she wouldn't have many friends if she was so rude to them, still didn't do it.

ElenorRigby · 20/04/2009 13:01

lol I remember DSD saying this to DP sometimes when she was 3. I suggested that DP said in return "I will always be your friend darling" lol it really diffused the whole thing

HSMM · 20/04/2009 13:17

As someone else .... "Well I'm still your friend" and then carry on with whatever you were doing. My DD used to hate this response

ICANDOTHAT · 20/04/2009 14:40

Copying mummy and others is how they learn their language and behaviour - scary isn't it. We've all got a 'Mini Me'

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