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Are we handling it all wrong?

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kolakube · 19/04/2009 20:46

My DD is 4. We have a 6 month old DS too. DD was fully toilet trained and sorted before he arrived. The odd accident but nothing to get stressed about. She has not yet managed to be dry at night except a few random occasions.

Over the last few months she has been having relapses. She seemed to have several wet patches throughout the day and whilst she went to the toilet eventually, she couldn't seem to keep herself dry as she once did. We reacted to this with mostly regular reminding, lots of praise when she did manage it, chocolate buttons every time she had dry pants but sometimes frustration and irritation. It seemed to resolve itself but over the last 2-3 weeks she's got even worse with not just wet patches but full on wees in her clothes. We've tried the same approach but nothing seems to be working.

I've had her checked by the GP for a possible UTI and she's all clear so what on earth can I do to help her past this? Is this a normal reaction to a new baby?

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Daisymoosteiner · 19/04/2009 20:49

I'm not sure it's even a reaction to having a new baby, some kids just have relapses. All of mine have gone through periods of being less reliable with getting to the toilet in time long after they had been succefully dry during the day. We just kept encouraging them and also reminding them to go for a wee from time to time and eventually they got through it.

thisisyesterday · 19/04/2009 20:52

i found with ds1 that the more I reminded him to go the more he would insist he didn;t need to.

what worked for us was not mentioning it AT ALL. which is really, really difficult lol. It's so hard not to say something when you're sure they need it. but anyway, I managed to stick with it and we just didn't mention the toilet at all to him.

if he had an accident he had to stop what he was doing, go and get clean clothes and help clean up and mess on the floor.

it stopped fairly soon and he's been fine since

nigglewiggle · 19/04/2009 20:54

It might be worth just ignoring it. Make no fuss, just get her to take her damp clothes off (if she can manage it) then put some dry clothes on with the minimum of fuss. That way, she gets no extra attention from it. If this is the reason she is doing it, then it might just work.

gagarin · 19/04/2009 21:01

Just make sure you check she's not constipated - an overfull colon can press on the bladder and disturb the awareness of needing to do a wee.

kolakube · 19/04/2009 22:11

Thankfully not constipated. regular as clockwork. And interestingly, never had an issue with using the toilet to poo, just wee.

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