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I have just bought a buggy for my 3.5 year old as I just cant control him when out

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IheartNY · 19/04/2009 16:17

Anyone else with a 'spirited' child... WHEN do they calm down just a little bit? Enough for a walk into town to get an ice cream without running off at every opportunity and throwing wobbly after wobbly becuase he wants to walk a different way to me?

After a nightmare weekend on my own with the two boys I have just been to Mothercare and ordered a double pram!

Most days we are fine as we go in the car to toddler groups, swimming etc, we walk to the park which is really close by and thats ok too.
BUT as soon as you get anywhere like a shop or a cafe or a supermarket DS1 just cannot seem to control himself. He runs off, he hides, he shouts, he cries, he picks up things, he throws things. I just cant cope with it and watch Ds2 without strapping DS1 down.
I do so much stuff just for DS1 - we spent all morning riding his bike outside and playing with bubbles in the garden before I took him to town for ice cream yesterday. It just seems like he needs to do things on his terms ALL day, most of the day is not good enough!
DS2 is too big for the sling now (I used to swap them round when DS1 played up before) so have resorted to double buggy.

WHEN will he start to be a little more easier to manage? Any good news stories out there?
Is it normal? Are all children like this at 3 years old? I'm hoping its just DS1's personality and that DS2 will be calmer!!! If its all children that are like this then I am definitely not having a third

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PinkTulips · 19/04/2009 16:25

dd was like that, she's 4 now and behaves angelically when we're out.... unfortunately ds1 is 2 and has taken over her role as lunatic runner

at least this time i know he'll grow out of it if i just keep drumming into him the importance of behaving safely when we're out.

i was daft enough to have a third so i'm sure ds2 will take over from ds1 in time [sigh]

edam · 19/04/2009 17:02

A little girl who was at nursery with ds was like this. Terrifying - if she ever got the chance, she would RUN at full tilt. Escaped from the teacher at the door once and made it right across the playground before I could even get the words out to tell anyone! She was still being collected in a buggy in reception (when her Gran picks her up - obv. Gran can't run as fast as someone 20 years younger)! Had the utmost sympathy for her mother and Gran.

She's finally calmed down a bit now she's in Yr 1. Hope it doesn't take your ds quite that long...

MrsMattie · 19/04/2009 17:08

I noticed a big turning point in DS just before he turned 4. He still has his moments, but is generally OK and we can go to the supermarket or park without him running off like a nutcase. If he is very tired, he sometimes relapses into silly behaviour while out, but mostly I no longer feel that fear of not being able to control him.

I had a buggy until DS was 3 yrs 9 mths (and DD came along ...but I am almost phobic about double buggies! ).

He'll get better, promise!

PinkTulips · 19/04/2009 17:13

mrsmattie... i have an 18 month gap and a 2.6 gap and i never had a double buggy..... i wonder is there a word for the irrational fear of double buggies?

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