Will removing my DD from nursery be detrimental to her development?

[pavlovthepregnantcat]

DD is 2.9. She has been in nursery for 2-2.5 days a week since she was 9 months or so. She has had time out, for a month to go to visit family in USA, over christmas for 3 weeks when we went to visit family, the odd week here and there when we have been away/she has been sick.

Since Feb, her days have been reduced to Mondays only due to my DH losing his job and us not being able to afford it.

In reality, we just cannot afford to keep her there at the moment. We had been using savings to boost our income but we have another child on the way and need to use these savings to convert our loft (we live in a 2 bed flat).

We have cut back on everything we can think of to keep here in nursery as we feel it would not be good to remove her from her peers but we just cannot do it right now.

In Sept she will be going to a different nursery, and will be getting free childcare for some of the week, so we will be able to afford her to do 2 days a week even if DH is not working (fingers crossed her is!). They will start the settling period in Aug so this will be 3 months out of nursery.

We will be taking her to toddler group once a week to socialise her with regular children, and we have friends with children who we will make sure she spents a lot of time with.

Are we going to damage her/affect her confidence or learning but removing her at this stage, as she has always known it.

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please don't trouble yourself over this, she will be fine

Take her out , she 'll be fine.

I hope so, I just feel so tearful when I think we are failing her. When she is not in nursery, she sometimes says 'i miss my friends mama' and it breaks my heart already as she loves it there and used to go 2.5 days.

Can you set up times to see oen firned a week perhasp so she doesn't lose them all at once ?

Dh is starting toddler groups this week coming, and we need to give one months notice at nursery, so in reality that will make it two months out of nursery (we can probably stretch to may as we don;t have to pay for bank holidays), so that might make the transition a bit easier for her.

Problem with her friends outside of nursery, one is at school, one is 8 months!!! and one is moving away and mother not too reliable for keeping same times, all a bit random with her.

She has so much going on in the next 6 months, its going to be a lot...leave nursery, get used to just us, then new nursery, then new baby sibling in November. Plus building work in the home for god knows how long.

But kids are resilient aren't they?

When i say dh is starting toddler group, i of course mean he is taking DD!

Will she get bored though, that is what worries me? DH is not exactly overjoyed at being a house husband, and while he is great at looking after her, he sometimes gets fed up with constant care, he is fed up by the time I get home and if he is looking after he for 3.5 days a week (as of next week, two of those he will be putting her to bed as I don't get home until 9:30pm) I worry they will both get sick of each other. Mondays gives them both at least one day of a different environment...

She is only little, time with dad is much more important that parallel play with some children that she won't remember at all in a year's time. There must be heaps of free stuff that dh can take her to and the weather will be warmer over the months you are talking about so duck feeding, walks in the park etc. become more doable.

Can he take her swimming, to the library or to the park, even planning just one outing a day breaks it up. We moved country when ds was just 3 , so he had a break of about 3 months from preschool (May -August), new house, new sister, new preschool etc. He did a couple of holiday sessiosn at his "new" school to introduce him to his teacher . It wasn't easy but he coped.

If he always takes her to the library at the time she would have been at nursery I am pretty sure she will keep meeting the same group of preschoolers who also go on that morning and she will have social interaction.

I go to the library a couple of times a week (why don't they make Beast Quest books longer?) before work and there are the same preschoolers there each time.

I was thinking of her meeting up with the children from nursery, but outside of that enivirnment.

Oh thats a good idea Lizs - I could look into that. There are some children she gets on really well with, might see if I can find out if they want to meet in the park.

DH will do stuff with her, he has been so far. He needs to take her to the library to take her books back! We have not been to the library much as I had gone with her, part of 'mummy and DD' time on my day off work, but it has been rubbish there, books not great and no-one else there! But they do story time and rhyme time there, so I am sure there will be same children there each time, and nursery rhyme group.

We are trying to look at how she is spending time with daddy, which she is very lucky to have. His work has always been able to be worked around childcare, which is why she was able to just do 2.5 days max at nursery anyway. The reality is that any new job won't give her that amount of time with him again so I think we need to remind ourselves of that.