I had 12 months maternity leave with DD and she was a real mummys girl. To the extent that I would make a big thing of "daddy time" at weekends. She was always confident with him (and most people to be fair) but would come to me for hugs etc. I quite liked this
DH was made redundant but is due to start work in 3 weeks and has spent the last 2 months looking after her whilst I am at work 3 days a week. On the other 4 days we have jointly looked after her, but more so me.
I would say that in the last 3 weeks she has started a strange habit. Whoever is holding her at the time she will cling to and if you try to pass her to the other one she will "whine" and pull away and hug the one holding her. One minute this can be and the next it might be DH.
I was reading that 15 - 18 months is a really important time for emotional development as they are looking for reactions, but am not sure which reaction to give?! At the moment we tend to cuddle her, which might be encouraging this "whine"
Last week DH took her to see his mum and once his mum had her she even pulled away from DH and clung to her grandma.
She starts nursery in 3 weeks. She has had a trial today and loved it but as soon as we collected her she started crying and reaching for me, and then for DH, and then for me etc etc.
I wonder whether the prescence of both of us over the last few months has really confused her, or is she just testing reactions?