Hi Emma, my ds is 20 months and is hypermobile and hypertonic although it sounds like to a lesser degree than your dd. He can pull himself up and cruise but it is a huge effort for him, his shoulders are particularly weak, and he often slumps/falls over. He can only stand holding on for a limited period of time before he just gets knackered and collapses!
He really improved when he starting crawling on all fours about a month ago, this has strengthened his shoulders which is the area the physio told us to really work on. He has'nt had any physio sessions and has consultant review in 2 months.
He does'nt have any bowel problems but I am concerned that he has some degree of global developmental delay. Whilst it sounds like things are harder for you I completely understand your frustration, my ds still feels like a baby rather than a toddler and my back is about to give out with all the carting him around. Also he is very demanding
probably because he is frustrated at not being able to do all he wants, I can't see him walking for at least 6 months.
Just wanted to share my experience, although it sounds things are easier for me. The consultant I saw told me there is a familial link with this and thinks it is likely I have it to a lesser degree as am bit bendy and it appears that my 13 yro ds also has it - walked at 15 months, had delayed gross motor development, struggled to ride a bike and kick a ball, fell over alot for years, suffered from excruciating growing pains and is now gangly, lanky and double jointed.
Am getting a bit fed up with people commenting on his not walking and comparing him with other toddlers, how do you find it?