So, tell me stories of how your co-sleeping, bf one-yr-old spontaneously started sleeping through the night.

[DuffyFluckling]

I need hope!

He's almost one.

He still has 2 or 3 feeds a night.

And a couple during the evening too.

It's okay, and I don't really mind, but oh it would be lovely to have an evening to myself. Watch a whole film in one go, maybe. Or go out . And as for a whole night's sleep... they're fictional, right?

I'm not really looking for strategies. I just wondered if anyone could warm my cockles with stories of their own baby suddenly growing out of night and evening feeds.

Once upon a time, my one year old bf ds spontaneously started sleeping through the night

Not really but not far off. I started to offer him a cup of water instead of milk during the night and he stopped waking for feeds quite so often!

He's 5 now so hard to remember exactly when but I know it was soon after he was one.

I had to stop co-sleeping to crack it. Depends on how you feel about that. Personally I didn't expect LO not to spend the whole night half-asleep and rooting, so when it go to the point (about 10 months) that we were both not getting any sleep, and she didn't really need the milk for nourishment, she went into her cot.

co sleeping on and off. BF like a milk monster including at least twice during the night until 18 months, with the odd night of once.
Have done nothing to change that, apart from learning when he's awake and wanting milk, as opposed to stirring and having a winge. He's been sleeping through possibly one night out of two for the past month and I'm keeping fingers crossed it keeps getting better. This morning he woke at 5 (I got up anyway) yesterday it was 6

Lol @ once upon a time.

He does start the night in his cot. He's never yet finished the night there.

He still has at least one pretty big feed, so it's not just about sucking to settle. Between 8.00 bedtime and 5.00 getting up time he usually has about 5 feeds. Silly! I know this. It shall pass. Right?

Like SPB says - I'm getting cannier about telling the difference between a whinge and a wake up.

Sometimes it's only 2 or 3 though.

[hopeful]

I should have said DS will be 2 later this month.
Are his feeds quick and does he settle back to sleep easily? That was the big thing for me! DS doesn't have evening feeds now, just the bedtime one.

I've had four. Co-slept with all of them. I put the cot in the room next to the bed and at least started them in there.

By around the 12 month mark, dh always takes over. I sleep in another room (with ear plugs on) so that when the baby wakes up there's only milk-less, hairy old dh to comfort him/her. After a week or so they stop bothering to wake up.

I find this is the only way for us. We've done it because I've gone back to work at least part time and need my sleep.

You've done a year. It's OK not to give milk in the night now.

I stopped breast feeding at 13 months same sort of time ds moved into his own bedroom and started on cowsmilk.

But when co-sleeping i refused ds night feeds at arround 8 months i was exhausted and had enough. Took a few nights but he stopped asking for them and slept through. He took up an extra feed in the day instead.

It sounds cruel to refuse to feed them but they adjust and my sanity was more important and made me a better mum!

Hi,
I co-sleep with my bf twins who are 19mths. One of them sometimes only wakes once now, and the other still wakes several (sometimes many) times. They are both improving though and can sometimes settle themselves back to sleep without feeding, which would NEVER have happened 6mths ago! I haven't done anything differently with either twin, so I guess it's just temperament.

Yes, I too dreeeeam of a night out..would be so great!! One day eh... (wink)

not till age 3
and we had to work at it
sorry

Hi
DD co slept and slept through with me from about 10 weeks (but was a nightmare to get to sleep in the first place), DS is now 14 months and also start off in the cot (easy to get to sleep), but comes in our bed once he wakes up the first time and stays in till morning. Last night he was up 8 times but some nights sleeps through till 5. We can't put him in his own room as have bunks in dds room and she's not big enough for top yet (she's also not dry at night being such a sound sleeper).
Did think of me sleeping on sofa bed and leaving dh to deal with ds this weekend as he's not got to go to work?
Ds comfort suckles to get back to sleep and rarely wakes up properly.
My mother in law told me that she woke as a child every few hours and still does (sister in law also does), so I'm wondering if he's always going to do it?
Going back to work in July and can see myself falling alseep at desk (it's that boring!).
I would also like to be less grumpy with dd...