My DS's have started playing really violent games...........

[CharleeInSpring]

My DS's are 2 and 4 and have started playing really violent games, im assuming some things are normal, they certainly have never seen any violence but i guess some games i.e car crashing is normal, im not to concerned about that.

Its the games involving 'your dead' 'im going to dead you' 'your face is smased' sort of thing that makes me worry. At what point do i stop it? What if anything do i say? How normal is it to pick things like this up from Nursery, like i say they certainly have never whitnessed any violence here or on tv or anything.

It think its more DS1 who has picked it up and DS2 is just playing along.

Advice please?

Bump?

Sounds like ds1 has picked it up at Nursery as you say. It was the same with my ds's. Ds1 would learn things from the playground and then teach them to ds2. I lived in dread of being summoned into school about it!

I'm neurotic about not letting my kids (DD 4, DS 2) watch violent progs etc. They only watch CBeebies, Playhouse, Nick Jnr etc. I dunno if you ever remember seeing Friends when it emerged that Phoebe's mum reinvented all the sad/bad stories IYSWIM - well, that's me! I have naughty (rather than ugly) sisters, different ducklings and I even wince at the Fat Controller etc, etc, etc again! And even half-eaten mice in the garden were curled up 'sleeping' and dropped gently from a shovel into the wood at the bottom of the garden to return to their families . I'm not as potty as I sound (I don't think - eek!) but I think there's time enough for all that to come out. So I don't think there'll be many kids less exposed to voilence etc than mine!

Although DS is still oblivious even DD, who's really girly, comes home from Reception with stuff about fighting, killing, etc. I'm sure it'll be worse with DS. They do pick it up from other kids, whatever you do. And a lot of other kids pick things up from older siblings, which can be tough on their parents, I'm sure. I avoid things like Power Rangers and Transformers but I think most parents are happy with their 4/5 yo's watching them. Once they get to nursery/school there's no avoiding it, I think. Hopefully, home background will prevail. I know I'm probably a wet lettuce, but I just say to her, 'don't say that, it's not nice.' Then at least I don't have to see her doing it!

I think fighting games amongst boys is normal, however, 4 and 2 is rather young for this. When my DS was in Nursery I was always rather shocked at some of the things the other children were allowed to watch -e.g. how is Spiderman a film for a 3 year old?

At 7 he now watches the usual cartoon things like Ben 10, and will play with pretend weopons with his friends, but he does seem more in to the 'saving the world' aspect than the 'killing' aspect.

I agree it is a difficult thing.

I wouldn't let my DS's watch Spiderman, they watch very few programmes, only Peppa Pig, SpongeBob and Humpf

I think it has definatley come from Nursery, i am ignoring it at the moment unless one of them says anything that i feel is just really inapropriate then i tell them what it means, why its not nice and ask them not to say it again but sometimes that doesn't work.

I think it's normal, Charlee. We didn't even have a telly when DS1 was little and he might have played like that.

"Your Dead" is ok, ime, as long as both parties are laughing about it. It's thumping each other, outright name-calling and other teasing I have to watch for.

Sheesh, You're dead, before anyone picks me up on it.

Hugely normal.

Their friends at nursery will have older siblings and thus it filters down. DSs were both making guns etc (called peeyows) a good while before they saw them on TV.