help I know there is a special topic but HOW do I get lo to poo on the flippin toilet?????

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He has been potty trained since new years day after many attempts.
We had made a deal that from then he would have 'big' pants and go to the toilet and from that day never had an accident just gone straight for wees etc.[won't stand up mindst]
But he will NOT poo on either the toilet or potty.
I have tried bribery ,cajoling ,saying lets go listen outside at the drain to see if we can hear it,tried putting a nappy in his potty, tried running and putting him on the toilet when he says he needs a poo and can he have a nappy and he literally just stops and says 'no thankyou mummy I no need a poo'
I have tried putting on a nappy when he is asleep and all he does is not poo.
He is 3.7 btw and starts nursery in september.
hellppp please.
I don't want to make him constipated but heelllp

I'm ot sure this will help, but my ds was the same. Any attempt to get him to poo in the loo just produced complete melt down and hideous constipation. So I just backed off completely - when he needed a poo I put a nappy on him. Eventually, we were on holiday once and in the pool and he neede a poo. I said "Well, either we can go all the way up to the room for a nappy or you can use the loo down here and we'll be back in the pool quicker and he agreed. I had to hold on to him very tightly while he did it, though - he was very scared! And I had to hold him for another few weeks, but after that he was OK. The bit you don't want to hear, though, is that he was 4.5 when this happened and just about to start school!

seeker thankyou when you say he was about to start school did you mean all day?
Ds starts in september but only for 2 hrs a day.
Tbh I am perhaps guilty as although I have tried all the things mentioned I do give him the nappy but am starting to get 'feelings' from others that he 'should' be doing it on the toilet.
Roll on the summer hols then maybe that will work.
I can't complain at least he is in pants and will actually be naked for atime now[he would'nt even be uncovered before even from being a tiny baby he would howl if he had no nappy.

Don't worry - it will happen. The more you stress about it, the less he'll want to do it. Back off and he'll do it eventually. Read this thread - this is more common than you might imagine...

Well, it was proper school but only mornings. He went a couple of mornings to pre school but never needed to poo while he was there, so the problem didn't arise.

I know about that awful 'should" feeling from other people. But because he was my second, I just thought "Well, he's not going to be in nappies when he's 18, it obviously upsets him for some reason and I don't want him to be upset or constipated, so I'll just go along with him til he's ready" And he was. Eventually!

my ds will be 4 this month and will not poo on toilet only in anppy he will start school sept but seems to only poo either in night nappy in the morning or when it goes on at night so doubt it will affect school

either way we've kept really relaxed about it and in last week he has sat on toilet twice to try and poo didnt do anything but he tried

and another time we caught him mid way and got his special toilet seat and stool and sat ona nd finished going

again not going to keep on at him or it stays a negative horrible experience

we flush the poos from nappy away i9n toilet and wave goodbye

if he attempts to sit on we praise if he doesnt want to thats ok

we seem to be getting more relaxed with it now so were just going to continue as his making huge progress its not uncommon at all

best to not make them feel more uneasy

we are going top have poo chart so every time he poos on toilet he'll get a treat as poos are more difficult there fore his been clever he seems happy with this and is trying

maybe the fact that when its in nappys they dont see it we wrap it up and whip it away quick as though its something bad maybe they dont feel right thats why i have introduced flushing it out of nappy and waving bye bye so he can get used to seeing the poo and relax around it by waving etc

I have experienced this problem.

Firstly make sure your DS has lots to drink and is not constipated. If he will agree try sitting him on the loo after breakfast and after tea to try to do a poo. I was advised to try this strategy by the HV and amazingly within a few days DS finally did a poo on the loo.

My HV advised me to not give DS too many bananas at this time as they may have contributed to his constipation. If your DS doesn't like drinking a huge amount I have found giving a straw can encourage children to drink more.

Other than trying to do a poo on the loo at the times above say very little on the subject to your DS and try to appear as relaxed as possible.

I thought my DCs would never poo on the loo but suddenly one day it happens and then this stage of not pooing on the loo seems a distant memory!

ah good to know I am not the only one.
Will be more patient and let it just 'happen'
thankyou for all of your replies.