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PLEASE tell me the magic answer!

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:27

DS 16 months, has now decided he hates the pushchair or his bike and wants to walk, WITHOUT holding my hand, in totally the wrong direction EVERYWHERE!!

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BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:36

WilfSell · 05/04/2009 21:38

Reins. harness or wrist sort.

Gives the blighters the impression of independence when really you're still in charge.

Allegedly.

BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:38

choice of two.

He walks nicely or rides bike nicely with you

It's in to the buggy with straps.

BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:39

Just seen he's 16 months. Back to my original post then plus I agree with WilfSell!

thisisyesterday · 05/04/2009 21:39

agree with biscuitstuffer.

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:40

At 16 months would he 'get it' Biscuitstuffer?

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thisisyesterday · 05/04/2009 21:40

reins never worked on mine because they just pull in the wrong direction until they fall over. did not help at all with getting them to walk with me lol
so it was pushchair, whether they liked it or not.

thisisyesterday · 05/04/2009 21:41

you don't have to give him the choice verbally, iyswim?
you just let him walk, and if he keeps pulling away from you or running off you just put him back in the pushchair

BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:42

He would get it soon enough! It depends how well he understands you generally though. If he understands most things then he will learn by association if he doesn't actually understand the words that you use BUT 16 months is still very young. I would go for the soap on a rope idea for a couple of months!

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:44

soap on a rope

He is more like a bladder on a stick when I use reins! He swings on them

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CarGirl · 05/04/2009 21:44

I did the hold my hand or pushchair, they soon learn!

It goes a bit more like "hand", they ignore - you stick them in the pushchair, repeat repeat repeat.

BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:44

If it's driving you mad just fling him in to the buggy until you're somewhere where it doesn't matter. If you find that there isn't anywhere then start thinking about places you can go to give him a run like the park or a museum or something.

BiscuitStuffer · 05/04/2009 21:46

oh god the hanging thing - awful !!!!

Barmymummy · 05/04/2009 21:50

Oh I have to apologise firat as I am wetting myself laughing reading this as it brings back sooooo many hideous happy memories!! Reins - never worked! DS swung like a chimp on them and then resorted to just sitting/lying on the floor . Wrist strap - resulted in him screaming or reversing fast! In the end I had to resort to the buggy WITH straps . I truly sympathise with you as it is so frustrating and they always do it when you are in a rush .

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:51

We did try the naughty corner the other day as he kept throwing bricks etc. He got very upset and stayed there, not sure why really but he did......I did feel bad as he is only 16month.......are naughty steps otc out until they are older??? He only stayed there 1 minutes and then I gave him a big cuddle and explained again why.......I should even more guilty now!

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tryingtobemarypoppins · 05/04/2009 21:53

sorry loads of typos - I'm lost in LOST!

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strig · 05/04/2009 22:00

I feel your pain - I would like the magic answer as well. My 18 month old has just started refusing to get into the buggy/car seat, wont hold my hand, throws toys, food (well doing that ages), and also when playing with other children if they come near his toys will go to hit them! How did my little angel turn into this.

Trying to use firm voice, eye contact when tell him no also trying to use a naughty spot approach (but also feel guilt about that as I don't think he really understands). Will just have to persevere.

Flying to Australia in 2 weeks with him and am stressing a great deal. I am pregnant as well - so may be it is just me being emotional!

ummadam · 06/04/2009 09:09

Biscuitstuffer's suggestion works with my DS at 15months. We use a wrist strap just in case he slips away but after a few scoops into the buggy he now stamps his feet, pulls away then looks up at me, stops and walks nicely.

I'm the parent not him - I will listen to his point of view (all non verbal at the moment) if it is safe to do so but in the end I decide how things are going to be, not him. (But I have to do my stern face and then quickly turn away so he can't see me laughing at his cute little strop! )

HeadFairy · 06/04/2009 09:16

Hoods are a great invention. I use ds's hood like reins! When in a hood free outfit, it's a case of he holds my hands (or I tightly grip his wrist ignoring all yells and protests) or he sits in the pushchair. It's a bit of a battle, but he's finally getting the message. In the park no problems he can run where ever he likes, but it took a couple of months for him to understand if we're by a road he holds my hand or goes in the pushchair. End of story.

I must admit to being massively helped in this area by my childminder who makes all her charges hold the pushchair handles when walking along the road. I don't know how she does it but she gets immediate compliance from all of them. My niece (who goes to the same childminder) won't walk along the pavement if she's not holding on the pushchair now, so deeply has it been ingrained in her behaviour. I heart my childminder

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