DS 19 months just seems so demanding compared to friends dc

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DS is generally a happy and playful little boy but he just seems so demanding compared to friends DC at the moment. He wants me to play with him most of the time, every now and again he will be happy to play on his own for a while. He throws tantrum over anything, some days if I say he can't do something, such as tip a pint of milk all over the floor, it will send him into a huge tantrum, while other days he is fine with it. Friends seem to be able to sit back and have tea and chat and tell their DC what they can and can't do so easily. DS will happily play with friends dc but it will usually end in tears when he's too rough with someone or he can't get the toy he wants etc etc - Does anyone else have a demanding DC at this age? It's just wearing me down a bit.

My DS2 was like this - and it came as a huge shock as DS1 was really laid back, preferred to play on his own etc etc. DS2 would strop over anything, lie on the floor, kick his legs, scream etc and was also very physical so could be rough with other children when we were out. However he's now 2 and is a LOT better, he is still stroppy think that's just his temprement, but he will p[lay happily by himself, or with his brother and other children, is a lot less rough.

Hiya, yes same here. DD was placid & a breeze, DS was NOT!! Like yours it was a daily battle to get anyting done. We turned the corner at xmas and it just seemed to switch off, he was 3.5. Hang in there, keep to your boundaries (essential!) and you will come out the other side,xxxx

Hi, you are not on your own, my 19 month old boy is exactly the same. Has a terrible temper if he can't get what he wants, needs me to go everywhere with him etc. My friends children are pretty easy going so I was thinking it was just my boy! He loves playing with other children but if you try to stop him doing something (climbing up slide the wrong way etc) he throws a huge paddy. Sorry, I don't really have any advice but just wanted you to know there are other little boys who are exactly the same!

You are not alone xx

My ds just turned 21 months and is exactly the same. He has a big temper and a short fuse!

He plays with other kids and isn't rough but if one of them daresto take a toy off him, it's meltdown time.

He throws and stamps around while screaming. Sometimes it's over something so small I can't help but worry he has anger problems. Ally other children I see seem lot more chilled than him. I guess a lot of it is just his tempremant.

Ds2 is 19mths and exactly the same, throws himself on the floor and has huge tantrums over anything. We have just been ignoring it and letting him tantrum , the tantrums are now getting shorter so may be seeing some light, but I just think its different personalities. On the plus side he is a v happy, sociable chap who seems much more confident than ds1, so swings and roundabouts!

welcome to the terrible twos only it can start from 18mnths or even earlier....

it seems only yesterday that my 20mnth old dd went one was this sweet and placid baby who just wanted cuddles and raspberries, to this monster who does things on buses which makes me seriously considering getting off without her.

my saving grace is a pampers newsletter i get on her birthday each month (you can google them)which tells me what's coming up. it's brilliant, because i feel prepared for it, so her behaviour (while not always pleasant) doesn't shock me as much.

WOOOOOOOOHOOOOOOOOO
OH YEAH I AM NOT ALONE OH YEAH I AM NOT ALONE WOOOOHOOOOO

Ok excitement over!!!!!!!!!! but you just described my 18m old I am up now so i can do the washing as it is getting impossible to do anything with klingon baby my angel

Have one of these too! DD is also 19 months and in the last month or so has got very clingy. She will occasionally play on her own but most of the time not. If she doesn't get what she wants, then it generally results in a tantrum which I just ignore and is normally over pretty quickly atm. Again, all my friends' DCs seem like angels in comparison but then this has been the same since she was born. I've long come to accept that she is a very sensitive and spirited child and therefore every phase is that little bit more challenging than what my friends seem to experience.

I am 'trying' to manage DD's clinginess if I am doing something around the house by either involving her in what i am doing or asking her to fetch me a book. She'll then run off which will gives me 30 secs to get something done, I will normally stall her for another 30 seconds or so and then read the book and ask her to fetch another. Its a long slow process but it keeps both of us happy. Failing that I put her in the garden, its the one place she will generally run around without the need for mummy constantly by her side .

Snap! DD at 18 months = little angel, happy to play by herself, really compliant (sounds awful, but you know what I mean). DD now at 19 months = complete stroppy whingey nightmare, absolutely doing my head in. Still happy and chatty, but only when she's getting my attention. Even when she's in the garden, if I step more than two feet away from the slide, she starts crying as she just wants my attention ALL the bloomin time. It's a phase - hopefully not too long a one - and in the meantime at least spring is coming, so we can usually get out of the house before one of us reaches breaking point (usually me).

Agree that getting her involved in chores etc works well (even if you then have to tidy up what they;ve been doing!). But sometimes you just have to let them strop it out, if you've done everything you reasonably can, and they are still upset or being 'naughty', nothing else you can do. At least it shows they are realising their independence and they have some spirit