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PLEASE HELP WITH MY 21 MONTH OLD!!!!

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MonsterSnap · 02/04/2009 10:30

I am not really sure where to begin. My son from birth has been sensitive and what some people describe as grumpy. He cried an awful lot as a baby and still does now. The slightest things make him cry and throw terrible crying fits. Everytime we go to someones house or they come visit I feel like I have to make excuses for him.

He hates to be held for more that a minute, always wriggling and eventually crying to get down and has been like this since birth. He can not stand it if he doesnt get his own way which Im sure is normal toddler stuff. He tries to climb everything and completely screams and cries when I stop him or say no.

He cries if I shut a door he doesnt want to be closed. He cries for ages after a nap and we dont know why. Weve tried comforting, snacks, toys but he just cries.

He seems attached to us and makes eye contact/ points talks jibberinsh but gets very frustrated with his toys. Throwing them and crying for no reason.

He still to this day can not sit in a car seat or high chair for more than 5 minutes whithout having a cry which means that going anywhere is damn near impossible.

He seems fairly bright. Has lots of words although not all of them are clear. He can recognise shapes and points to the correct ones when asked but he seems to be stropp y all the time. He just starts cryingout of nowhere and I never know how to handle it. I want to comfort him but I dont know if thats the right thing to do when hes have a temper tantrum.

He wont walk anywhere because he only wants to walk where he wants to go and finds it impossible to take direction without just throwing himself down and screaming but then cries when I pick him up.

I am getting concerned because he doesnt know how to reactto other children. At soft play most children are into all the rough and tumble play, climbing on top of eachother in the ball pool but my son cries if they get too close or snatch a toy off him. I know hes young but he doesnt seem to like being around other children if they are rough. He hates any roungh play, just picking him up too quick can make him cry. He doesnt really like sudden movements at all.

I am starting to worry if there is something else going on but not sure what to do. please help. He seems so touchy and people are commenting on how hes always moody which makes me want to defend him but really I know its true.

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Trinityrhino · 02/04/2009 10:40

have you thought about the possiblity of him being in pain, like maybe tummy pain/colic or something

just a stab in the dark but it would maybe explain the not wanting to sit for long periods, not wanting picked up too quickly and the seemingly general grumpiness

Hope someone comes along soon that can be more helpful

LolaLadybird · 02/04/2009 10:52

Following on from Trinity's post, have you ever taken him to a cranial osteopath/McTimoney chiropractor? I remember reading an article about a small child who had various alignment problems that weren't discovered until he was a few years old. By that time he was suspected to be autistic (never wanted to be cuddled/close to people as caused pain) and was at the point of being moved out of mainstream school. Once diagnosed, a course of chiropractice treatment worked amazingly. He was the son of a TV presenter, if I can think of his name I'll post and may be worth googling.

LolaLadybird · 02/04/2009 11:04

It's Quentin Wilson I was thinking of. Have linked the article I read. Obviously quite an extreme case but interesting and maybe foor for thought.

www.beestonchiropractic.co.uk/press/pressa4.html

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