Can you spoil a child under 1?

[1needsleep]

Hi I have just adopted a gorgeous little Girl who is 11 months old,
what do you do when they have a whingey cry....???
I have them; when I say no to something.
When she wants her milk and has to wait less than a minute.
Occasionaly during mealtimes.

And the normal tiredness.

She is lovely in all other respects, nearly walking and babbles to herself.

Any ideas of what to do when this happens?

distract her!

Very normal behavior.

Congratulations on your new dd!

when you say she cant do something, offer an alternative, like you cant bang on the tv but heres a wooden spoon and biscuit tin to drum instead.
give her a cuddle and move on.
imo no you cant spoil a baby.
congratulations btw

At this age and with (I presume) a difficult past, I would say she's got no wants that aren't also needs. You can't spoil her - spoiling to me means giving stuff instead of love. I would just give her what she wants as quickly as possible and ignore the wingy-ness. Plenty of time to think about that sort of thing.

Congratulations on your little girl

as said you can't spoil them.

She will be seeing how you do things and she will keep on seeing what she can get away with forever!!

My DSs would go ballistic if they didnt get their milk immediately (till about 18 months!).

Also I think if you can avoid the word no it's always a good thing; instead of ' no raisins' try 'raisins later...look at theres the cat' (the cat was the best distraction ever as she stayed away from them til they hit 2!)

and also if you say no try and stick to it as otherwise it's confusing for them.

good luck!

Congratulations. Wishing you a happy future together.
Of course you can't spoil her. You're only human, you can only do things so fast. She doesn't get that, she whinges. It's natural.

Many congratulations!

No, you can't spoil a child under one, and particularly so in your situation. She is in some ways like a newborn, in that she needs to learn that you are there for her, will respond to her, will meet her needs, can be relied upon. She needs to learn these lessons, deeply and well, way before she needs to learn the more mature skills of patience and not always getting her own way. Right now your priority is to show her that she can trust you. As she learns she is safe, she will become less whingey and demanding. (And then she'll turn into a tantrumming toddler, but cross one bridge at a time!)

(Big sympathies about the lack of sleep, by the way!)