tantrums & tiredness

[kellise]

Any tips on dealing with them? I have a 2 yr old DD & 6 mth old DS & DD is starting to drop day time nap but occasionally gets over tired towards the end of the day(need to point out Im am trying to get her to nap but she just wont go!)
The overtiredness is the route of the tantrums, that and her age I think but on Friday she screamed the place down at soft play & refused to put on her shoes to leave & I had to pratically drag her out kicking and screaming which was hard work when pushing a pushchair at the same time & although I stayed calm I felt a little embarassed.
Yesterday walking home from the park she heard an ice cream van and wanted an ice cream but I hadnt taken my purse so told her I needed to go home for some pennies first, she then started to walk the other way, did the usual pretending to leave her but she just screamed & sat on the floor & as we were near a road I had to go grab her & she screamed all the way home.
I know I made the mistake of not taking the double buggy with me both times as can just then strap her in but even then when ive done that she'll kick & scream when putting her in.
How do you deal with tantrums when out and about? and how do you get them to take naps when they fight sleep? any tips would be mose welcome.

Hi, I'm sure every mum on here can sympathise with you, we've all been there at some point!

Mine are a bit older now but I used to always make sure I gave them several warnings that we had to leave/go out etc soon, so that it didn't come as a massive shock. At that age they have no concept of "time", but if you say "we're going in a little bit" then remind her again in 5 minutes etc it might help. I still do this with my 5 and 7 year olds but I tell them the actual number of minutes, ie 10 minutes then 5 etc.

Lots of children do seem to stop sleeping at 2 - DS2 did, although DS1 continued to sleep for an hour or so after lunch til he was over 3. Maybe just accept that she's not going to sleep but don't try to cram too many activities in, especially late in the day.

Oh, and a tip I learnt on here about the ice-cream vans - apparently when the van plays the music it's to let the mummies know that unfortunately they've run out of icecream ...

Thanks basementbear some good tips which will def use & love the ice cream one

This probably won't help but our lovely, funny, affectionate 2yo boy has quite literally turned into kevin the teenager this weekend.

He even managed to have an argument with himself.

My stepdaughter's favourite moment was when he screamed whilst purple in the face "I'm NOT being naughty, I'm being NICE". He was rolling around on the floor at the time.

He also had a tantrum at 3 am this morning which quickly decended into a farce with me chasing him as he ran through the upstairs waking everyone up accusing them of taking his favourite book.

Just thought i'd share in the hope it would make you feel better

Similarly, those big ice cream signs outside shops mean that they've run out. Useful come the summer.

Good luck.....

Sorryhaventaclue, im sure during the moment of the tantrum it must have been really bad but reading your thread made me chuckle & see the funny side in the aftermath of the tantrums so thanks for that I do feel better.
We have had one this morning as she sat at the breakfast table & said that she was in the chair too tight (shes not using high chair anymore but has a cushion on a normal chair so def not oo tight!!) and thats before tiredness kicks in!! lol

Kellise, a sense of humour at all times is the key i think. As my very good friend said to me a while back "if anyone really knew how to handle tantrums then there wouldn't be thousands of books on the subject".

I make her right and just muddle along.

Being 2 must be a "bit wubbish" as my DS would say. Anyway, it's good practice for ten years time.

Hope your dd is over her too tight chair by now. I'm just into work and frankly it feels a bit of a relief to be here, which is a first!

Have a good one