What do you do if your 16month keeps smacking?

[IwantPeace]

DD keeps smacking me and DH when she gets told no etc.

What is the best way to handle this?

At the moment we are telling her 'no that's not nice' and if she does it again we remove her from our laps/put her down etc.

Not sure if its working TBH as shes seems to be smacking even more so any help or advice gratefully received

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Sounds like youre dealing with it the right way, if DC are doing it for attention, and dont get it, they will stop (eventually ). My DS2 does this, I put him down off my knee, get down to his level, and say "No DS, we DONT hit, that hurts mummy" if he does it again I warn him he will get time out, if he does it again, I sit him in his highchair for a couple of minutes and leave the roomWhen I come back, he smacks his own hand, shakes his head and says "ah-ah", so I iknow he understands. He is 18mo, how old is your DD?

Shes 16 months Betty.

I hadnt considered time out as I thought she was too young to understand

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Hi IwantPeace (like the name )
My ds turned 2 last month, and is still smacking. I am doing exactly what you are doing and explaining that it's not nice etc, and putting him down or out of the room when he does it, but we don't seem to be getting anywhere! It's so frustrating. I've started to turn my head away when I say no as I know a smack will follow He does say sorry afterwards, but I'm under no illusion that he understands what 'sorry' means.

I s'pose we just have to carry on as we are doing, although it is rather testing.

I shall be watching this thread with a great deal of interest. I hope somebody comes along soon with a miracle tactic!

My DD is the same age as yours Iwantpeace and she has started smacking as well. She doesnt smack me or DH but she has started smacking DS(8). I just tell her no in a firm voice and tell her to say sorry and give him a cuddle. She doesnt actually say sorry but she gives him a kiss and cuddle, then usually rubs his face!
Im sure if you carry on telling her no and moving her away if she doesnt stop she will stop eventually. I usually find that things get worse before they actually learn to stop doing it. She will probably smack more then ever then it will decrease and she will move on to something else naughty!(or is this my child?)

Hopefully she'll stop if we keep it up then.

Monkeybum - fingers crossed for your ds as well

My DD is 23 months and she smacks, I posted here a month or so back as I have tried everything I thought was right and I was told to IGNORE IGNORE IGNORE for a while and see what happens.

I have finally had the strength (and sense) to take this excellent advise this weekend. When DD starts to hit I walk away, make a cup of coffee, start reading one of her books joyfully. At the first first attempt she kept on and on and on and eventually subsided into howling sobs as I was not paying her any mind. She then came to me for a cuddle and all was well with the world.

The one time I did react at bedtime tonight was after she got me right in the eye socket during a nappy, I went along the lines of 'don't hit' so she hit again and I said 'No, that hurts Mummy, don't hit' and so on and so on until bedtime became a hideous disaster and she went to bed in a howling temper and I am so wound up.

So, my weekend survey shows I need to totally ignore and walk away from her. If she continues to hit I go to the other side of the stairgate or somewhere she cannot reach me and pretend to be having the time of my life.

It is exhausting but I would dare to say we did make some progress this weekend, that was before my smack in the eyeball made the red mist appear before my eyes tonight of course!!!

Pass the wine someone.....

We have the same issue in our house with 17 month old; but a few friends have said they get better results with a 'no'and walking away. It normally results in screams; but just a "no' seems to only get a laugh and another smack from our DS
So I will be trying this from now on....

Thank you QQQQ!!