Please help advice potty traing 3.2 nappy loving son

[ZebsMummy]

I am potty training my 3.2 DS over the Easter Hols
My problem is I have already tried and failed miserably to potty train and he has yet to do his first wee on the potty.
I have been preparing him all week about him being a big boy and doing wees on the potty or toilet like Mummy and Daddy but all the response I get is Zeb wear nappy not pants and he then gets quite upset until I reassure that its fine he can still wear his nappy we?re not worrying about it just yet?
The reason why we stopped last time was that it seemed that he was getting potty phobic and really distressed about the very idea of weeing on the potty!

Please help any advice greatly appreciated

Maybe,try to say to him

"Today we are going to try having big boy pants"

Go to shop and buy pants "Spiderman,Ben 10,whatever.

Have a fwe toilet training days.If it doesn't gel,don't stress.Don't hassle him about it.Go back to nappies and try again in a few weeks.

He'll get there in the end.

I am about to begin training dd (sn) who is aout the same age,so feel your pain.

IIRC boys can take longer,but you WILL get there.The important thing is not to get totally stressed by it...They know what buttons to press! DS got my buttons pressed re eating...it was much better when I relaxed about it all.

Good luck!

Sounds like it's become too much of an issue already-maybe you've talked about it too much and he's feeling the prssure. It's easily done I know, but you might need to back off completely for a little while so he can calm down about the whole thing.

Kids are ready for potty training at different ages-my twin boys were very happy in nappies when I decided to potty train them once and for all aged 3.2 this time last year, having tried and failed 3 or 4 times before. I felt a bit pressurised as everyone we knew were out of nappies by then, often younger than mine - stupid, really - but I was also really fed up with the nappy changes - they are like portable toilets at that age - yuk!

It's important to make it fun and like a joint project - not something being imposed from above. We talked about it a little bit for a few days before starting and I got them some nice new pants - maybe get him to chose some with you in M& S or something. We then stayed at home for a week watching endless DVDs with no pants on. They didn't like sitting on the potty so I'd give them a sticker for just sitting down (stopping the DVD until they'd agreed to sit), a smartie for a wee and a chocolate egg for a poo. As they got the hang of it over a few days I'd start postponing the treats, i.e. a big treat at the end of the day for doing well, then at the end of the week.

I'm not exactly a Gina Ford fan, but her potty training book had some useful ideas in it. Don't expect him to be dry at night anytime soon though, but if he IS dry for several nights in a row it's worthwhile removing the nappy to see what happens. It's a good diea to put double sheets on, i.e. waterprrof sheet/sheet then the same again on top so you can just whip off the top layer in the middle of the night if need be. Good luck!

I'm in the same position. Mine is around the same age, and until mid Jan refused point blank to sit on loo or potty. He still refuses to sit on the potty, but DH got him to sit on his Thomas seat by placing it on a stool and getting him to sit on it on a solid background. He realised that he couldn't fall through it and thereafter agreed to sit on it.
We've been building up slowly, 2 weeks just going in the morning, then 2 weeks on twice a day etc. Last Wednesday ( he's in nursery mon and Tue) we finally decided it was underpants day, having given him 2 weeks notice and a countdown). To our amazement it seems to be working. He's had a few accidents but it seems that he now knows what he is doing. At the end of the day it's completely pointless if your LO isn't up for it. Give tons of reassurance and praise, and a sticker chart works well too. He still loves his nappy though!

Have you tried a loo seat instead of the potty, a lot of children especially older/taller children find a potty very uncomfortable.

Does he go into the toilet with you, this is a good way to say "I need a wee wee, ok let's see if you need one too"?

Put some nice pictures up in the bathroom, so he enjoys being in there.

DS hated potties too, so we skipped that. In the end bribery was what got us through. He really wanted a plastic sword he'd seen in a toy shop, so we made a a sticker chart. If he tried using the toilet and wore pants, by the end of the week he'd get the toy. I think I divided each day into three - morning, afternoon and bedtime, so he got three stickers a day to put on the chart. Even if he had accidents he got a sticker - the point was he had to try. Worked for us when nothing else did..

i have just started my 2yr old he wont entertain the potty he wants to use the toilet like his big sister he has been in underwear all day today, we have spent about 3 hours in the bathroom, he has a seat that you place inside the toilet seat you can get them from ethel austins and probably mothercare,we have found this to be the easiest option also we have been advised to place a piece of kitchen paper in his nappy then he will realise when he is wet and he wont like the feeling of it, then maybe you can explain that if he uses the toilet/potty he wont feel wet hope all goes well

Sympathy - we tried at 3.2 and he ran out of the room to wee in a corner!

We gave up after a day as we got bored and grumpy.

Am going to try again next week (3.7 now).

Have bought him a bright red potty (favourite colour) from a company called Wee Punk. It is very cool.

Update on my LO. He's pretty much clean and dry at home now, we can't believe it. However, still refuses to use public loos or the toilets in the nursery. Shame because by the time Wednesday comes round we have to pursuade him back into underpants. Still we know he can do it now. What a relief! I thought he'd never be ready, but I guess they all get there in the end.

Thanks for all your advice, first day today and yay oh yay, 2 wees in the potty and a pooh,

had to bribe with a creme egg for the pooh but so pleased with himself when he'd done it, though wanted to go straight back into pull ups once he'd had his fill of chocolate! but hopefully now he knows he can do it he'll want to do it more and more, am happy just taking it nice and slow at the moment, have also got a just turned 2 DS who is also insisting on potty training for chocolate - success rate unfortunately low!!!

Thanks so much for all advice again, have got Gina Fords Book and have also gleaned some advice from there, hopefully by the time Nursery starts again he'll be in big boy pants

hi
dont usually venture on here but saw this and smiled as nobody helped me with my 1st
i think if you can bite the bullet and take off nappies, and those pullup nappy pants are really just an expensive waste despite the star system
choose nice big boy pants together and brace yourself for taking those nappies off during the day and for being housebound too
i just sat in gave mine(and the others)lots of fluids and put on the new pants with potty at the ready
i think in all cases we watched cbeebies over and over til that wee came!
i obv.explained pull ups for bed time at this point which s/he accepted
and for going out i used a plastic bag under their car seat
once you have them in proper pants don't go back at all regardless of the situ/apparent inconvenience to you
oh and be prepared for odd leak too even from slightly older children
as sometimes they are simply so engrossed in what they're doing that they simply forget the need to go
and eventually i suggested using the proper toilet but had one of those seats and a fold away one for trips out
oh and weeing like a man comes later too
prob when he's at nursery and sees other boys doing it
hope this helps
nerves of steel remember!!