Just seen this thread, ilovespinach. Could have written it myself. DS2 has just turned 3 and will only eat the following:
Breakfast: porridge, buttered toast or yoghurt.
Lunch: Ham sandwich or cheese on toast.
tea: spaghetti with some kind of tomato based sauce, chicken curry with rice, chilli and rice. We are still at the stage of blending the tomato sauce for the spaghetti right down as if there is the tinest bit of onion or pepper that he can see he just doesn't eat any more. same with curries and chillies - I have to blend it almost smooth and then mix it up with the rice. We reached a stage where it was only blended a tiny amount and he WAS noticing the onions and other veg and meat in the food and eating it, but lately it seems to be getting worse again.
He won't touch anything else at tea time. Literally nothing else, including "dry food"
like fishfingers or sausage and chips. I have tried putting those sorts of things in front of him and he literally shrinks back from the seat and starts crying and crying.
He won't touch fruit - he will drink Innocent smoothies (won't drink home-made ones), and will eat half a fruit pot in his porridge.
He has milk at bedtime.
Any junk food in a rustly packet and he is there - crips, biscuits, cheddars. Same with chocolate.
I am in the middle of reading "Coping with a picky eater" and finding it helpful reading that picky eating is normal, but really, I am on the verge of asking if he can get referred to an eating clinic or something. It doesn't help when you see programmes about adults who only eat certain foods and I end up worrying that DS2 will end up on that in 20 years time!
I used to be fussy with food as a child, and so was DH (he still is really). When I was about 17 I turned a corner and now eat anything. DS1 is 5 and is a bit fussy but has never needed sauces blended right down and is happy to eat a much wider range of things and to TRY new things in the first place.
I can't offer any help as I am in exactly the same boat as you, but wanted to show you that you're not alone!
If you find the answer to it then I'd love to know!
I remember a neighbour's kid only eating tomato ketchup sandwiches when I was a child. His mum took him to the doctors and he just said "He looks healthy enough. Let him eat it but just keep trying new things regularly and he will grow out of it eventually." I wish I knew how he'd turned out - lost touch when we moved house.
Anyway, enough waffle....