Upsetting nursery drop offs? Anyone else?

[MissMoopy]

My dd is almost 4.5 yrs and gets really upset about being dropped off at nursery.

We, along with nursery, use a variety of strategies to reduce this and in the main, they work a bit. I just feel like a shit Mummy for leaving her I suppose (although do not let her see this at all!!) She is perfectly happy once I have left and she talks positively about nursery most of the time.

She starts school in September and I am already panicking about how she's going to manage being left.

She has never been great at being dropped off, but has been worse since her favourite nursery teacher left in November. She definitely likes the current carers but doesn't feel the same way as she did about Gypsy, who she adored!

Not sure I am looking for anything other than some reassurance and to hear from some other Mums in the same boat!

Went through the same with my DS for years. From 12ths i put him in a nursery 1 day a week and it started from then. Would leave him crying everytime and then phone up and hear about what a lovely time he's having.

This carried on through playschool and into preschool Nursery. He 6 now and can happily say it ended a few months after preschool nursery.

He can't wait to get away from me now.

My DD used to go through phases where she did this. She would cling to me hysterical and when i phoned the nursery 5 minutes later they would tell me she was playing happily. Interestingly she never did it if someone else dropped her off.

hello, i posted a thread about the same problem yesterday my ds starts school full time september too, its really upsetting.

My 31/2 YO DD gets in a right state practically from the moment she wakes up about nursery. It's gotten worse since she started in the pre-school room and there's a whole series of rituals we need to go through before I do drop her off. It's really hard for me to leave her in that state especially when there her other kids her age nonchalantly walking in waving mummy goodbye and getting on with it.

However, the staff DO reassure me (and take plenty of photos to prove it) that she spends her day happily and at this stage that's all I can ask of them. Have considered changing childcare arrangements but then I am happy with all other aspects of her care and who's to say she wouldn't be the same, if not, worse elsewhere.

Glad to see from here that I'm not the only one in this boat and then it might continue for some time yet...

Yup, same boat. My DS has hated going since he began.......and his twin loves it. Same recipe, different cake.