Advice please for sorting DD's horrible behaviour

[MissM]

Most of the time DD (nearly 3) is a delight. An absolute delight. But she's developed this nasty habit of shouting 'NO daddy/mummy/granny/DB, GO AWAY'. There doesn't seem to be much rhyme or reason to it, and she doesn't do it to everyone, just the people I've listed above. Sometimes it happens literally as granny walks through the door with a big smile and kiss, or when DH comes home from work. It's horrible (and embarassing when it's granny), and I need her to know that she just can't talk to people like that. I've got cross with her, I've got her to apologise, I've told her that it's not a nice way to speak etc. etc. but now I think I need to get tougher. It's just not on and it makes her look bratty and horrible, which she isn't!

Any suggestions? Would time out be a good option, and if so, what's the best way of doing it?

can it be that she is looking for extra attention? if this is the case you should explain calmly you would not accept this kind of behavior, and THIS IS NOT A NICE THING TO DO, and without any negociations leave the room, make her understand she will not get what she wants. going into arguments with a 3 year old would not help, but the consequence of you ignoring her might give her the 'lesson'. and be consistent! try not to give in to 'please come back' unless she is ready to appologize for the bad previous berhavior. make sure she is looking into your eyes when saying it. otherwise is just a lie

I would just ignore it both my DC have gone through similar phases. My DD once went through a phase of "Don't Love You"! In the end when ever they said things like that I would either ignore itjust calmly said to them "OK I will go away then/OK I don't mind if you don't love me but you still have to brush those teath!" You would be amazed at how quickly they stop doing things when it has no impact!

I agree with tummytuck - she's probably figured out that this really gets to you and she now has a powerful weapon at her disposal.

I would ignore it by the way.

Good advice guys. I thought that putting her out of the room would be a good way but actually removing myself is probably better -then at least she literally understands what she's telling me to do!

DH was actually really funny with it last night. She said 'GO AWAY DADDY' and he said, "I don't like the way you said that. If you want me to go away you have to ask me nicely." Then I heard her say quietly and sweetly, "Go away please daddy" and he said, "Ok, I will, seeing as you asked me so nicely." It was hilarious!

thank god I'm not the only one going through this - mine also likes shouting 'no lady don't touch me' very loudly at anyone who tries to help him on and off the bus or touch him. It's so embarrasing.........he knows it really winds me up

Lol Joeymac. Mine has also said loudly, "NO mummy, don't HURT me." Luckily not within earshot of a social worker. Yet.