Come and tell me I am being a bit melodramatic and rather PFBish, please

[notnowbernard]

I think I need a little reality check

Just walked back from the park with dd2 and the route takes us past dd1's school

Reception are all out in the playground. I spot dd1 (5) standing on her own, chewing her sleeve

The temptation to stop and watch until she started playing with someone was overwhelming In fact, I did wait a while because dd2 wanted to watch the children playing and look for her sister

She did start running around but was on her own for the time I was watching her (until I managed to drag myself away, that is)

OMG, I felt so protective of her! Am not normally like this... please tell dd1 is perfectly fine and I am being a bit of a silly-arse

I think they all sometimes have a little quiet time on their own. I sometimes see DS1 on his own in the playground but you've just seen 2 mins out of her school day.

Does she talk about friends she plays with?

I would be the same

Try not to worry though, I think all children have moments when they are on their own for a while.

tracey you're quite right about it only being 2mins of her day

She does talk about her friends a lot and I know deep down she is fine at school (confident, happy to be there, has had party invites etc) but I think it was the sight of her (my baby!) standing on her own, looking a bit lost that pulled at the old heart strings...

I think if it had been me I probably would have stood and watched till she had started playing with someone else too, so I dont think you are being too silly.

We all know it's only 2 mimutes out of her day, and that she is fine at school, but we'd all feel exactly the same as you if it was our DD.

oh horrible - poor both of you! i'm dreading ds being in the big playground next year as i will be able to see him probably several times a day! in that situation i might well have climbed the fence and swooped down crying 'mummy's here darling' [years of therapy for ds resulting] so i think you were very restrained.

I think i would have cried

You are all very indulging kind, thankyou

It's officially pm, surely wine is allowed?

I've got a whole 'school-life' of this ahead of me, haven't I?

It's bloody terrifying!

I would probably have called the nearest child over and handed them a quid to go and speak to her! Well, not really but I definitely would have watched for as long as practical and then cried all the way home

i go and help at school one afternoon a week
At playtime i would say a good proportion of the children are alone for a short time. Alot of the time they seem to just 'bounce off of' each other or play alongside rather than cooperate in pretend play.

she's fine

Thankyou, thankyou

trout that is reassuring to hear about the playtime

Her teacher said at parents' evening last week that she doesn't really have a small group of friends yet, she is still at the play-with-anyone stage (her teacher said in her opinion this was preferable as it stops cliques forming or being upset if someone goes off and plays with someone else, or is off poorly or whatever)

I think you are allowed to feel a bit wobbly!

The only times I have ever seen DD playing outside at playgroup she's been madly running after her friends, all of whom can move at twice her speed shouting "x", "Wait for me!" "Come Back" "You're going too fast"!

Lol - well, lol now that we're half way through the year and she's obviously perfectly happy. Sob into my own sleeve and chew my insides out when she had first started!

I mean PRE_SCHOOL!

It does get you, doesn't it?

Glad your dd is happy at pre-school sycamore

Not PFBish at all! I have 3 and beleive me I am the same. I can't bear the thought of my DC being lonely or excluded. Please try not to worry. If you are concerned speak to her teacher. She will notice if she is too much of a loner or has no mates in school.

BTW wait till they get to secondary school. Sooo big and scary

Her teacher said she gets on and plays with anyone and wasn't at all worried. DP just called and I mentioned it to him - his response went along the lines of "what are you worrying about that for, you're mad aren't you?!" (nice and helpful, but probably true)

Orm I have just been lurking on a "I am worried about teenage dd and secretive texts" thread and felt my panic rising

I don't want dd to leave Reception

Dd is shy and I have been known to lurk around the preschool to see if she's playing with anyone.

Must make a note not to do that at primary school or I will be a wreck!

My ds has come home from time to time and said he didn't play with anyone.

I think (hope) he's focussing on a few minutes during playtime at a loose end.

Taking into account that the teacher said your dd is OK, you probably witnessed a temporary not playing with anyone while she's looking for who she want to join in with. I am a bit of a worry bag myself,so can understand, but don't worry, sounds OK!!