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Silly disruption at school

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loobiama · 23/03/2009 07:01

Please can anyone advise? My ds is recently 7. He attends a selective independent prep school since year 1. He spend the first year and a bit of school life in a local state school which did have a very good reputation. We had to take him out after 4 terms because his silly disruptive behaviour antagonised the teachers so much that he was constantly in trouble for minor misdemeanours, constantly in the head teachers office and we were constantly being called in. More often than not it was about trivial silliness, never anything major. As a result the staff decided he was a problem and not very bright academically, which we knew wasnt true. Our bad experience with this school was repeated with several other families of bright children who also removed them. (10 children have left out of his intake of 40 in reception) He passed the assessment for the academically selective prep school. The head teacher reassured us that he would be fine and things improved dramatically in that we didnt get the constant negative feedback anymore. He copes fine with the work, but still we get to hear occasionally that he remains silly and distractable in class. School are cool with it, saying he is just immature and he will grow out of it, but it has got to the stage where some parents are banning their boys playing with him, because they perceive him as a distraction. Its a great shame because he loves school and is very sociable and popular, but we see examples of his silliness at swimming lesssons etc, where he constantly messes about and distracts. Everyone says he is just a boy, but we are at our wits end trying to get him to settle down. Please help!

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ICANDOTHAT · 23/03/2009 08:01

Hi loobiama This may sound obvious, but what is his diet like? My son is 6 and is highly affected by colours, sugars and preservatives. He also has supplements of Omega 3,6, & 9. These have really helped with his behaviour and concentration. Does your ds have issues with concentrating in class? Was it just the silliness other parents did not like or did he play rough too?

I have 2 boys and it took until aged 8-9 for my oldest to start to 'grow up'. My youngest, however, is another very long story ......

Dingbatgirl · 23/03/2009 15:13

I am also trying Omega 3 fish oil, I know my ds has trouble concentrating at school. He can also be silly.

loobiama the other parents who are banning their ds playing with your ds - are they telling them not to play with him at school, or not asking him back for playdates anymore?

The school sounds really good - would you speak to them about your concerns?

loobiama · 23/03/2009 21:04

Thanks
I have spoken to the school and they say its nothing terrible and that he will grow out of it. I don't like to ask too often because we got into that situation at his last school and it was never good news! The other parents don't want their boys to play with him at school (which I think is crazy) and don't invite him back for playdates. They tend to live far away anyway and travel to school, and fortunately he has lots of other friends who live locally and he has a very active social life so that doesnt really bother me, its the school playground bans which upset me.

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ICANDOTHAT · 24/03/2009 07:51

I would relax about it for now, and if it becomes a problem for this school, I'm sure they will let you know. I think you just had a bad experience with the previous school which sounded like they may not have come across a child like your son before or do not like children who upset the equilibrium of a classroom (I've met plenty of old fashioned teachers who feel like that Take it as "No news is good news !!"

Dingbatgirl · 24/03/2009 13:17

Agree with ICANDOTHAT (are you a Catherine Tate fan?!) the last school seemed to find it just too much.

The playground bans - I still think it's worth mentioning to the school if this carries on, the next time you get a chance, maybe they can work with the children on accepting each other, it's a cause for concern if parents are saying this to their children.

ICANDOTHAT · 24/03/2009 13:34

Dingbatgirl Yes, that's exactly where it comes from I love her !!

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