Dd 6 yrs old confidence boosting tips....

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She is a confident little thing normally and happy enough but often says so and so was nasty to her or calling her or knowone plays with her (abotu schoo) and today 2 little girls in rd called for her and within minutes she was back in in tears as they said she was a cry a baby and were mean to her (we have issues with one of them as is often mean and stopped her playig with her but decided to relax a bit of late). I have told her not to bother playing with the nasty pasties but she obviously wants to - any tips of whats right and wrong to help her get over this sad state. I dont want to interfere as girls are girls but i also dont want her to be picked on like i was as a child. Also her teacher dropped her down a level on her reading yesterday as whilst she was off sick (the teacher) the replacement bumped her up a level as she is a good reader btu the teacher was a bit put out im guessing so dropped her back. This hasnt helped as yesterday she had a crying episode at school as it had really upset her. She is a fragile little flower at the moment

anyone?

I cant really help, but DD is also 6 and going through this too. However, I have just started childminding in January, and thats when it started. (Shes an only child, so not used to sharing me)

I try hard to provide her with as much one on one time as possible, and take time to listen carefully with undivided attention.

Is there possibly a trigger in your DDS life that could make her feel overwhelmed? Do you ask her how she thinks she should handle it? Could be very empowering if she can figure it out (with your support of course)

I have two thoughts

1. Something that has worked for me and DS1 on occasion is to think up a list of things she could do or say when a difficult thing arises (like teasing). eg go and find someone else to play with. Try and make it fun, you could even write the list on a white/chalkboard. Get her started but then listen to her ideas. Some of the things can be funny/outrageous (eg telling the other person they've got poopy pants). Try and make her laugh. Then pick together the most appropriate one . Try and make it her choice.

2. A lot of confidence comes from doing things. Maybe if school is a source of social pressure for her at the moment, she could do something new out of school eg Beavers

Sorry in a hurry
maybe speak to the teacher about her reading?

thanks giong to have a word in am

Hi nappy.... my ds age 6 dissolves into tears easily, he was crying alot at school, for example if he couldn't find his hat or something like that.

I boost him up by talking alot about what he's interested in (ie - dinosaurs) and asking children back to play with him after school.

There is an ELSA (Emotional Literacy Support Assistant) at his school who does small group work, talking about feelings, etc. Is there anything like that at your dd's school?

dont think there is but im going to have a bit of a word tonight withthe teacher and see how she is at school. I thought she seemed alot happier over the weekend then last night she culdnt get to sleep as she had 'bad things in her head' - which i told her to tell me and i would make them disapear - she pointed out her ruler still at her friends she has forgotten to get back and how she was sad it was the end of mothers day - at this point i decided she was on a wind up at bedtime btu still took the bad things away from her

She is at rainbowns tonight so on way to school we talked about how good it is........

Sounds like we are doing similar things, my ds says at bedtime he is thinking about sad times ("you were cross with me today, mummy!") and he can't think of anything happy!! I talk positively to him and remind him of what he is good at, and try and divert him, so as not to give the negativity too much attention, as you say about the bedtime worrying.

Good luck with the teacher, let us know how it goes.

I didint talk to the teacher as dd ran out gushing happy and said teacher had moved her onto level 9 again - i am a bit miffed the teacher has messed her about tbh but shes happy so i am.