15mth dd seems to have started the terrible twos early - how do I deal with it when she is too young to talk/be reasoned with?

[Caz10]

My dd has turned into kevin the teenager over the last week or so! Tantrums, doing that going rigid thing so I can't get her in car/seat buggy, screaming and pointing over things she wants and isn't allowed etc...at the same time I see huge changes in her in a positive sense too, she's just started walking properly, does baby signing and has suddenly started using a load more signs, knowing animal noises etc etc - it's like a little light has gone on, and we're onto the next stage! I know everything she's doing is typical toddler behaviour but I didn't expect it so soon. Everything I've read talks about reasoning with them, offering them choice, telling them ahead of time what is about to happen etc - but I don't think she's capable of understanding that - any ideas?!!

Definitely do the telling ahead of time. A Lot. Understanding language comes a long way before being able to produce it, and if she's signing a lot, it suggests she's got a good grasp. It's a bit of a leap of faith, and I was unconvinced when my mum suggested it, but it really did work, and we started at about 12 mo.

I'm surprised at what she picks up tbh, even when out of context/not addressed to her. She made me laugh the other day when I said in passing to DH "stop monkeying around with that" when he was fiddling with our laptop, and she started making her little oooo oooo oooo monkey noises and actions!

Actually come to think of it, she does start screaming when I say it's time to change her nappy, so I guess she understands that...

How/in what kind of situations did you find it helped?

We did it all the time, tbh - just got into the habit of telling her the day's plan, inc. how we'd get there, so she knew that car seat/buggy, etc were involved, and then nearer the time telling her what was going to happen next - about 3 times at intervals. Give plenty of notice about car seat/buggy/having to stop playing, and say the good stuff that will lead from the stuff you have to do, so she gets the point.

e.g. in 2 mins we'll change your nappy, and then we'll have story/snack/go and see nanna, etc.

It made getting back into the buggy much easier. Has come back to bite me now, mind: here

lol to that other thread habbibu, at least you know it's been understood!

Seems its not just me either

@ Caz10

hello there ?

Fancy meeting you here!!

Just had to carry my kicking screaming dd into the house as she wanted to walk up and down the street instead...

luckily DS has only just started walking, not up to outside walks yet really... won't be long though!

It took us a week from 1st steps to running away down the garden path