should i be worried? i'd really like to chat to a CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST or professional person with exp of sexual abuse

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my 4.5 yo dd is very happy, intelligent and doing really well at school. she comes from a loving home and is a real character- she always has a cheeky glint in her eye.

today, though i am suddenly worried. she is a bit obsessed with her genitals eg her and her sis find it hilarious to look at each others' if left alone in the bath for a moment ( all pretty normal) and she is a bit obssessed with playing Drs and nusers in a rather intimate way when friends come to play (have tried to encourage a less hands on approach without making it taboo).

she sometimes can be very silly when getting dressed. bending over to reveal all then shreiking with laughter.

i had never worried until today, when she and her 7yo sis were talking in the car and her big sis initiated a conversation about teenagers kissing.

suddenly my 4 yo dd, amid shrieks of laughter, brought genitals into the conversation. i am now worried about the content of what she said(will elaborate later). i am thinking sexualised talk = big cause for concern.

...so when is this normal developmental stuff, and when is it cause for concern??

dh is adamant that i need to question dd, but i want to approach this in the right way.

anyone out there who can help?

Remember as well that children are surrounded by sex - as well as hearing things at school, your 4yo might see and hear things on the TV and radio, overhear adults talking, teenagers on the bus etc.

The weeing on the woman is certainly playground talk at our primary school: I had to disabuse my 7yo of this idea. I know he got that off his mates- despite my best attempts at sex education. SO if your 4yo is around 7yos, I'd say it's exactly the kind of thing they do talk about. This does not mean that it can never be a sign of things wrong- but it is at least equally possible that the explanation is innocent.