When does the random crying/screaming stop?

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I know that some babies are just cry-y type babies and others aren't - I've got a cry-y baby. I feel that now he is 14 weeks I am finally getting to know him and can actually help him through his days. So I am making sure he is getting a fair number of hours sleep in the day, and this has meant he sleeps better at night, waking only once or twice. His trapped wind seems alot better (but I guess that is due to him getting older) and overall we enjoy our time together.

However putting him to bed at night is still a battle. He still screams and cries whenever his head comes within 5 cms of the cot matress as he has done since birth. So we still can only put him to bed asleep after about 1.5 -2 hours of crying and screaming. I always just comfort him and have put this down to fairly normal baby behaviour as you read about it all the time but when does this behaviour stop? When will he grow out of it?

why not just get him to go to sleep somewhere else and then transfer him to the cot?
ds2 used to fall asleep breastfeeding on my bed, and I'd then roll him into the cot and put the side up

DS still screams getting into his cot and he's 8mths! As a result we have co-slept a lot

why not just get him to go to sleep somewhere else and then transfer him to the cot?

Yeah this is what we ultimately do but everything I read says how bad this is. I'm all for a quiet easy life but don't want to set unbreakable habits

Why's it bad? If it works, it works!

no, it isn't bad. well, not IMO anyway lol.
we did it for ages and ds2 gradually grew out of the need for it. can't remember when exactly but he was under a year.

he's still really little and he just needs to be with you to help him get to sleep, which is understandable really.

thanks thisisyesterday - your post has made me feel lots better and of course I must remember he's still my very little baby

I did what you do with DS1 and it made everyone terribly unhappy.

With DS2 I wore him on a sling and he had all his sleeps there. When he was totally totally asleep (my bed time) I put him in his cot.

Also, I put him down [whispers] on his side. Well supported between 2 rolled up towels, then 2 two teddies as he got older.

I think both mine had a touch of silent reflux, so lying on their backs was pretty agonising. Plus, I weighed up the risk of cot death against the risk of me chucking out of the window and decided it was side sleeping for me!