6 yr old back chat

[julesrose]

What do you tolerate? What don't you tolerate? How do you prevent it and how do you deal with it?
Not much to ask I know...

I don't tolerate any, a discussion starts with a question and this is different. Backchat is a PITA and never put up with. When I tell ds not to do something or to do something it's not a discussion. If you give them an inch it blurs the lines so they are more likely to overstep them. I just say "this isn't a discussion" and he normally stops.

I think rudeness is unaccepable whether it's from children or adults. So that means definitely no swearing, no spitting (how bad are we talking?), no throwing things or hitting. Is that a good start?

If she is awful I send my 6 year old to her room to cool down until I call her back (not longer than 5 mins or so).

But I make allowances for her relative tiredness/ circumstances, and distraction often works as it does with toddlers.

Hope this helps

Oops missed the stress on backchat. I must say 6 is the age when they start wanting their own way, I try to let her be independent and express her views but not at the expense of what the rest of the family do. Still don't agree with rudeness generally...

I take none of it. I tell her its not a nice way to talk to me or anyone else. I give her a warning if she does it again shes sent to her room or loses something nice. Im very strict with my girls most of the time tbh

don't tolerate it at all. Cannot abide rudeness or disrespect in children. Maybe due to my parents bringing me up the way they did. sorry bit a of a rant going on now. firmly firmly believe that if more kids were taught proper manners and respect by their parents towards other people then maybe the youth culture we have today would be something completely different to what we have to put up with from some sections of the younger generations. sorry rant over.

i am strict too. There is no reason to be rude, and my 6 yr old has it pointed out to her, if she back chats me.

Which tbh she doesn't really anyway, only if she is tired or upset over her dad or something. She does tend to mimic my way of speaking, can't put my finger on an exact saying, but you know, the things i say to her. If she does this in a bossy way (which is how it must sound!) i tell her off, and remind her of speaking nicely. Then try to take a leaf out of my own book!!!

I occasionaly get glimpses of the future, and tbh it scares me, and i would be the first one to come on here and ask how to deal with a moody teenager.!