Attention seeking at 20 months

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How can i stop my son biting, head butting, pinching and banging his head off doors and various items. I understand him having tantrums. But i dont want him to hurt anyone and most of all himself. i need a quick easy an cheap solution asap. thanks

Kalms ... No only Joking. ITS NOT FOR CHILDREN.

He is at that age now where he is unable to tell you about any fustrations from the tiny bit of fluff tickleing his toe to the annoying voice on the telly. So he has to vent his anger/fustration towards something/someone.

Hes only 20 months (and it doesnt help that hes a boy) But if its any consellation my 13 month old Daughter has started head butting the wall but she thinks its 'fun'! She also pinches herself and us. She smacks herself and Us in the face when shes angry.

I just give her a firm 'No' and distract her with the telly or a toy. It sounds to me he's giving you a really tough time?

Keep strong. It will pass. If you cant see a reason to why he may be biting/banging his head etc... take him to see the GP. It wont hurt.

Doe she bang his head for a long time???

If so to spare him pain, when he starts to do this, just move him over to a pillow or bean bag on the floor.

he sorry!

he does it till he has full attention. i do tell him no not that he listens. and when i try to distract him with tv he turns it off an if its a toy he bounces it off the nearest person. hes driving me nuts

it's normal. My ds is just the same. He's 19 months and although he has just about stopped the headbutting thing, he still smacks and does this annoying running into things and people like a belly flop almost . I have to say I just distract him normally by getting down on the floor and cuddling him or giving him toys and playing with him. Maybe that's gving into him?? Not sure but if I ignore him he cries and cries and cries and I can't really see the point in making him that upset when all he wants issome attention. They are bound to be bored and frustrated. They still don't fully understand the world and have so few words to express their bordom/ frustration or even simple requirements. It will get better xx

actually DD is like that too somethimes. I think they all go through it at different ages, but she seems to be leaping ahead of her time!

It will get better. Just keep giving him lots of attention when hes not doing the 'naughty' things.

All children are different, but when DD throws a strop I do admit to cuddling her. sometimes she slaps me, or sometimes she kisses me.

I tend to not say anything about the slapping, I just pull her hand away from my face, and give her that ' you do that again, and Ill throw you out the window' look. Most of the time it works.

It's Trial and error.
Just be strong.

I hsve another idea.

He feeds off the 'annoyed' feelings you give off. They seems to be able to know what your heart rate is doing and how to make it sky rocket.

If you can get one of those play pens that he can not climb out of. Pad it with cushions
adn when he starts to act up put him in there and walk away into another room.

Let him cry it out, or shout, or throw himself on the floor etc..etc..

Do this everytime he starts to get on your tether. Consitancy and persistance will pay off. It may even take up to a week for him to get the message - but whats a week to a lifetime of 'the happy boy'

Why don't you try teaching him baby signs? he's a good age to start them now and it will help with his communication and frustration no end.

You've probably already taught him a few signs such as waving his hand goodbye, nodding for 'yes', shaking head for 'no'. All you need to do is invent simple signs to go with simple words which will help loads.
Here are some, just repeat the signs each time you say the word and he should pick them up easily:

Drink= put your thumb to your mouth and tilt your head back

Tired/sleep= both hands together and place on the side of your face whilst tilting your head

More= put all your fingers on one hand to your mouth

Hug= wrap your arms around yourself.

Go on, try them its so easy to invent your own and bridges the communication gap amazingly.