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ds 3.5 starting to have a few worrying behaviours

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breaghsmum · 05/03/2009 21:47

firstly i'd like to explain that he has good reason to be a bit off with me, this last year hasnt been easy for him, potty training took a good six/seven months then at the end of that his dad and i got back together after being apart from before he was born, that was in august, then he started nursery shool in september and we told him a few weeks ago that im having another baby. so needless to say, he has had a lot to deal with in a short space of time.

so now to the behaviour, he has started pooing anywhere at all that he feels like it ( so far only at home) i have asked him why he does it and he says he doesnt know. he knows its meant to go in the loo, also he has started hitting me and kicking me when he doesnt get an answer he likes, i put him on the naughty step for this. although i know its a temporary solution, i know theres something going on in his head, he just says sorry and walks away. however most recently, he has taken to running away from me when were out and he thinks its hilarious. i make it really clear that im very angry but he doesnt seem bothered. how do i help him feel more settled and stable, i know matters are likely to get worse when baby is born but id like to tackle his insecurities now so he knows he's not going anywhere when it does happen. any help greatly appreciated. i feel terrible for him at the minute but i dont know how to make him feel himself again.

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BirdyArms · 05/03/2009 21:53

I feel so sorry for you but not sure I can offer anything other than sympathy. When my ds1 (3.11) is going through a spell of bad behaviour I find that the most effective way of dealing it is to be as nice, calm and cheerful as i can possibly manage. Ignore as much of the behaviour as you possibly can (eg the pooing) and give consistent message on the stuff that is dangerous. Best of luck getting through this, you will come out of the other side and you can only do your best.

BirdyArms · 05/03/2009 22:26

Bumping for you - please someone give her some better advice/ support!

MrsPurple · 05/03/2009 22:45

Hi

My DD2 ( whose 3 and 9 months) has recently gone through same phase. I agree alot has happened to your DS but I think it is just a phase, as my DD hasn't had nearly as much going on and she still hits, punches, lashes out etc. Have had HV involved but I really feel alot is due to frustration and tiredness.

Does you DS go to nursery or pre-school?

My DD doesn't react like this outside of home (occasionally slips into frustration when she doesn't get her own way,outside).

I have found a way of calming her down is to try and get her to have asleep in the afternoon, when the behaviuor is at it's worse. When she wakes up she is alot better.

I know they should have dropped sleeps by now, but the behaviuor gets ten times worse when she doesn't have a sleep.

My DD1 used to run off alot and think itwas funny at this age. I wouldn't worry it's just a phase,and bl**dy hard work for us mums!

MrsPurple · 05/03/2009 22:49

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