5year old has been getting into troube at school for bareing his bottom in class

[AnotherworriedMother]

Am a fairly reg poster, but have namechanged for this

This has been going on for a few weeks now and today I was called in to the headmasters office.
Obviously each time it has happened we have spoken to him at home about why this is not acceptable behaviour, but it obviously isn't "hitting home"
Does anyone have any advice on what to do with DS and how to impress upon him that this is just not the done thing?
I am now worried that the teacher thinks there is more to his behaviour, she was asking if there was anything bothering him at home (which there isn't)
I think there is more to it, I think he is trying to get attention from his peers, he keeps saying that no-one wants to play with him . Am getting really upset and don't know what to do next, I want his school days to be happy days

bump. help.

I apologise in advance if this is a silly question, but are they sure your DS is doing this on purpose? My DS, who is 4, is one of those narrow-hipped little boys whos pants are forever sliding down off his bum (or if they fit round his waist they are halfway up his shins...) Could he just be ignoring his descending clothes and being teased or reprimanded for it?

What has the class teacher said about this ?

did the school not suggest anything?

my son did this for a bit i think maybe the first time it was accidental then he kept on doing it as it got a laugh.

explain to him that after the first time it just isn't funny anymore.

What does he say when you ask him about this?

take something away from him?
then say he can have it back if he goes a week without doing it, like a dvd, favourite toy etc

Could you arrange for some school friends to come around after school so that he can make friends. He might be more settled and not resort to shock tactics to get attention.

Is he doing it for attention? I't bound to get quite a few laughs!

My DD who is three thinks pulling moonies is fantastic - she always has done - I soooo hope she doesn't do it at school!

Really school should be dealing with this as it's happening at school.It does sound like attention seeking from what you have said - have you told the teachers about him not having anyone to play with?

I think you are right AWM, it sound to me as he is trying to get the attention of his peers (and we know how boys that age like to talk of bums, farts and poo. Or at least mine does). He is clearly trying to make friends by making them laugh.
As Lindt said I'd try to arrange play dates after school.

Am going to speak to the teacher tomorrow re the not having friends. I did speak to her before about this and she kept an eye on him in the playground. She said that he played happily with all his other classmates.
I feel sure it is attention seeking. (the mooning). They are telling me about it so I can reinforce it at home, but didn't really suggest any other way of dealing with it.

Thanks everyone for replying

I think they should treat it as they would any other attention-seeking behaviour in class.

Are you worried about some sexual connotation?
I have 2 DS and they (and many of their friends) are obsessed with bums.
I even caught DS1 and his friend trying to google "Bum Stuff", fortunately on Googlemaps (I go hot and cold just thinking of what they might have found!) Parental Controls went on quick-smart!

They just think it's really funny, so it will get them maximum attention.

Try the "why do you want everyone to see where you poo comes out from?" angle. I know they think bums and poo are all the rage at this age, but when my ds1 did this at school (same age) I tried it. He thought about it for a while and decided it was disgusting and never did it again.

I might try that Icandothat

I'll try that ICANDOTHAT, thanks