Cheeky 8 year, tantruming 3 year old and a non sleeping nearly 2 year old HELP

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At the end of my tether and need some help - 2 year old not sleeping - I am doing the put him back to bed and ignore but it is so hard. Some nights he sleeps through (not very often though) and other nights he's awake all night.

3 year old has not long started nursery and has turned into a monster - he has suddenly got really LOUD and whingey

8 year old is just being a pain - he is being very rude, answering back, ask him to do something and he refuses, he teases the 3 year old constantly doing things that he knows get a reaction like calling him a baby - he is always pushing the boundaries and i am turning into one of those shouty mummies and I am fed up with the lot of them and feel like running away.

Any words of wisdom? Tips ?

2 year old has a nap still but only an hour at most - he is in his own room and always has been and i have no idea what is disturbing him.

3 year old tells me he loves nursery and he does really enjoy going

8 year old has a reward chart but its not really working. ITs just the constant having to shout to get anything done - its sooo frustrating - simple things like we go out the door so i hand him his coat - "Im not wearing that I dont need it" "Yes you do its freezing put your coat on please" " No i dont need to wear it" " Please put your coat on" " No I dont want to" "PUT YOUR COAT ON" - i know this is pretty minor but its like this with everything

I never thought being a mum would be this hard i have days where i wish i didnt have them and that makes me feel awful because i do love them but they are driving me mad

maybe following 8yo lead...we dont have to do what mum says.
regarding coat, leave him without, he will soon wish hed worn it. let him feel the consequences of his nay saying. pick your battles. like 100 years says, stick to your word.
i expect if you were sleeping you could deal with it better, deprivation is mental!
for now, try the bach sleep remedys with the others, theyre pretty good.
maybe get some for yourself!

Whats bach sleep remedy? I Will try anything - yes you are probably right if i was sleeping properly the world wouldnt seem such a bad place!

He has come home from Nans tonight and been golden - i have given him lots of praise and told him how womderful it is not to have shouting and how good he is tonight

OMG thats such great contraception!

Tell me about it there will NOT be ds or dd4!