DD 3yrs old dressing issues every day

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My DD 3yr is having issues dressing every day. We spend anything from 10 - 30 mins deciding what to wear and then actually putting it on.

If I let her choose, she says 'I don't know what to wear, you choose for me mummy', when I do she says she does not want to wear it and has a tantrum.

If I don't ask her and I choose for her then she has a tantrum.

Sometimes she decides and then when we are in the process of dressing she changes her mind. She is capable of dressing herself but insist I help her.

In the meantime I am getting more ratty and frustrated as I am hungry for breakfast and so is my 6mth DD.

Any tips on getting her to choose and stick to her choice and then putting it on quicker?

My middle one is a bit this way, though it doesn't end up as tantrums. Have you tried giving her a choice of two things? Or choosing the night before? Either the "this is what you're going to wear tomorrow" or "what are you going to wear tomorrow" route. The night before doesn't work with mine as she changes her mind overnight. There are some things that I know she'll usually prefer to wear and some she flat refuses. I have been known to pick out a cardy she won't wear, so that I can sneak a pair of trousers on that she's iffy about, before "giving in" on not wearing the cardy.

Once chosen, try her with an oven timer set to say 5 or 10 mins. She can see it count down. Works for mine. Or race her to dress before you. Or before you get dd2 dressed. Mine do get threatened with having to go to school/preschool in pjs... haven't had to do it yet, but would do, although getting upset child in car wouldn't be easy!

Other option - have breakfast first. Kids are often more compliant when they're not hungry.

If it's any consolation, the choosing issue has improved vastly with mine, really not a problem now. Funny how people who've not had a fussy one like this don't understand that it's not down to what the parent has done, it's just how they are, isn't it? I used to think "just put it on them" but when they don't want it, it's just not possible.

Oh this sounds all too familiar. My DS has a big thing about tracksuits, thats all he will wear. I am still working though it at the moment with him but have comprosied with him, nursery days = tracksuits. I find if I tell him what trousers he is wearing and let him choose top he is ok (ish). I must say I've had to naughty step 'warn' him if he kicks up a fuss and/or me. it's working for now but who knows next week? I really feel for you coz it seems so silly to people but its so frustaring everyday!

agree give her a choice of 2/3 outfits

and yes i have taken a child to nursery in pj's as took so long to get dresses and then got dressed in car