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Do you let your 5 year old or younger use the kettle to make hot drinks?

66 replies

nappyaddict · 20/02/2009 09:38

Is it just me or is it too young?

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OrmIrian · 20/02/2009 16:29

I wouldn't. My 9yr old DD and 12yr old DS make tea now. And sometimes they even boil the kettle first!

Martha200 · 20/02/2009 20:41

I also feel it's too young. I do remember being in the Brownies so at 7/8 I partook in a make as many cups of tea as I could for people for charity event so that it when I first dealt with a kettle (doubled up as a section in my requirement for a badge)

ScoobyDoo · 20/02/2009 20:44

No way and personally i think this is a silly question

duckyfuzz · 20/02/2009 20:52

no way

Lilyloo · 20/02/2009 20:53

No way ds almost 7 and i get anxious if he climbs on the worktop near the kettle.

disneystar · 21/02/2009 08:08

i have only skimmed the thead so dont know if been mentioned here
i wouldnt let my 9 yr old use a kettle either
But we dont have a kettle

we use a tefal one cup so its safer
just press the button and hot but not scalding water comes out.no spillages or accidental tipping hence scalding the person using it.
maybe 11 i think here it would be ok

BusyBeeWithThree · 21/02/2009 08:11

My ds(7) makes me a coffee but not with kettle with nespresso machine. But he doesn't carry it to me, I will teach that to him next year!!!

nappyaddict · 21/02/2009 12:34

SD - I don't think it is a silly question. Until you have a child of your own that age it is often easy to say I'd never let my child do that or think they should be better behaved or whatever.

As lou33 said i know someone who does this and whilst my gut instinct says its too young I didn't want to say anything to the mum and then find out loads of people think it is ok. (like i did once when I found a neighbours 3 year old playing on the street then came on here and had people saying well i let my 3 year old do that as we live in a very quiet street)

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Gorionine · 21/02/2009 12:42

DD1 is 10 she has been making tea for me for the last year. DS2 has askes if he could do it and does it now and again (he is 8) but under supervision still. I would not dream of letting DS3 (5yo) go anywhere near a kettle.

roisin · 21/02/2009 14:17

I don't think it's a silly question either. In this country lots of children are over-protected, and don't get to do many things they are capable of.

I remember once watching a row of mums' faces drop at nursery as all the little children fetched their own coats, put them on, and fastened the up by themselves. The mums had just merrily carried on putting their coats on for them without realising they were well capable of doing it themselves.

But tea-making at 5 is not reasonable, as everyone on here agrees. But tea making at 7 or 8 is a greyer area.

ChasingSquirrels · 21/02/2009 15:29

I said no yesterdayday - for me the no is mainly due to the height at which the kettle is kept in relation to the size and strength of a 5yo.

If the worksurface were at the child's level my "no" would be much less emphatic.

ZipadiSoozi · 21/02/2009 15:34

Far too young

milou2 · 21/02/2009 15:37

No way.

BoffinMum · 22/02/2009 09:59

I think with all these things you have to teach your child very carefully how to do it, and do a kind of risk analysis depending on the probability of injury, circumstances in the kitchen, child's personal manual dexterity and self-preservation instinct, and so on.

I used to work in a Montessori nursery many moons ago, and our kids did things like chop up apple, clean little pieces of glass and sweep up properly from the age of two. Obviously we kept a close eye on them, but they were perfectly capable. That encouraged me to help children do a bit more for themselves than I might have considered appropriate previously.

On holiday last summer we shared a villa with some friends, and their younger daughter helped me peel and chop up the apple for a dessert I was making, with a proper peeler and knife. She was 7. Now I was watching her like a hawk because I am not daft, but her dad was incredibly nervous. I had explained to her about knife safety and I could tell she had the dexterity to do it (I have known her since she was born), so I explained that to him, and he just about let her carry on, although he didn't like it because she was his little baby (of course). She loved it though, and did an excellent job. However my DS2 is absolutely not allowed to do this because he has dyspraxia and is relatively cack-handed. He is just not ready.

I came across this film which is a very interesting debate about what is possible for young children in terms of dangerous things.

www.ted.com/index.php/talks/gever_tulley_on_5_dangerous_things_for_kids.html

Anyway, having said all of that, I would not let a five year old use a kettle because they can't lift heavy weights and liquids reliably at that age, and therefore the potential for real injury is huge - a lifetime of skin grafts. With a small kitchen knife under close supervision the worst case scenario would be a few tears and stitches, and you would be going it some to do that much damage, tbh. It's all relative.

Blondeshavemorefun · 22/02/2009 10:56

absolutly not

my sil did this and my nephew seriously burnt his hand when he mispoured

he has had major skin grafts and now even 4 years on he cant flex all his fingers or striaghten them and has got more skin grafts in the future

i will NEVER understand why she allowed him

she feels guilty and so she should-she was stupid to allow a child to play with boiling water and electricty

edam · 22/02/2009 11:01

No, wouldn't dream of allowing 5yo ds to handle boiling water until he's much older. He's not tall enough to reach and hold a kettle confidently.

I do look forward to the day when he can actually make me a cuppa, though...

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