my 20 month old is very clingy....

[mumof2rugrats]

my dd2 is always at my feet when im washing up she is attched to my leg when im cooking dinner she there and as i type she is climbing all over me
i have a friend with a boy that is same age and when we visited them he and my dd1 5 yrs would play together but dd1 went and played on her own in the corner .
me and my dd2 are always togher we dont go to mum and tots groups as they are very clicky where i live .

not sure why i have started this maybe to get some advise or just to get it of my chest ...

Hello mum of 2 rugrats didnt want you to go unanswered, it must be a little fustrating but every child is different, if you dont like the mother and toddler groups you could try taking her to a local park to see how she is with other children, or an indoor play area, i think its important they learn to socialise as when they start pre school and they have to spend time away from you it would benefit them if they are used to socialising with other children.i wasnt a huge fan of mother and toddler groups myself, hope this helps.

she is ok w3ith older children such as over 5 but children her age she aint intrested ..

I saw this one time and actually gave this same advice to a lady on here with a clingy child who wouldnt let her leave the room.

Give DD somethign that she knows you always have on you.. Like keys, mobile, watch( somethign that will also intrest her) and instead of just leaving let her know that "mommy is just going to... go workout for a bit, hold this and I'll be right back. Okay, you be a good big girl. thank you DD" Then DD should know that mom always needs this thing I have so not to worry that she wont come back.
Its better that you let them know you are going somewhere and that you'll be back not only to collect her but also your belonging.
And of course when you come back adn IF she has been good, lots of praise for letting mommy have mommy time

Hope it helps

oh also if you cant put her down for long enough to do anything...like shes constantly at your hip I saw anotehr tip on the show that the ladies who created this site.

Lets say you need to do the dishes in the kitchen and have to put her down but of course she doesnt want to.

Use the diversion method and get a blanket or play mat and put some of her favourite toys on it just near you but not so close you'll trip over her you know,...just in the same room and everytime she goes to kick off adn cry show her one of her toys and how neat it is that it sings or lights up or pretty it is or whatever and then go straight back to doing what you need to do. and repet with every time she crys.. it might interfere with what your doing 3-4 times but at least is gets done and it should improve as the days go on.

again hope it helps

thank you so much livysmum i am going to try this and it sounds like it will actually work . i will keep you up dated on it too...