DD (5) covered DD (3mths) head with blankets last night.....................................

[Flumpybumpy]

DH was at home last night with the kids DD (5), DS (2) and DD (3mths). Ds was in bed and both DD's in the sitting room DD (3mths) in her bouncy chair and DD (5) watching TV. DH went in to check they were okay (he was cooking dinner inthe kitchen, I was at the gym) and DD (5) had covered baby DD's head with blanket and she was kicking a struggling in her chair.

DH shouted at DD and told her it ws dangerous etc.... and she just laughed!!!!

DH told me when I came home, I spoke to DD and toldher that she wasn't allowed to help me with baby DD until I felt I could trust her again. Again she just laughed.

She has been so good with baby DD up until now and always want to help change her nappy or feed her. She talks to her and sings to her when she cries and helps to settle her down. I hve no idea where this has come from. They share a room and now I am petrified that DD will do something to baby DD in her cot whilst we are not in there. She has also started hitting and screaming at DS whn he has done nothing wrong.

Where has all this come from all of a sudden, I don't understand.

Flumpy, you have to do what you feel is right, I think the advice on here so far has been pretty good. I would be thinking about having the baby in her own room, and the two older dc together, my ds and dd share a room through choice and it works really well, they are now 4 and 7, and have been sharing for 2 years now.

I did have both in the room with us until they were at least one, but I was bf'ing so it was practical.

Agree with other 2 dcs sharing...it would seem more sensible anyway due to bedtimes etc

Agree with what has been said here pretty much.

DS1 (2.7) has done all of the above - tried to tip DS2 (3 months) out of the moses basket, cover him in blankets, climb into his bouncy chair/under his gym.

In order to be able to leave the 2 of them together at any time, we have set up a travel cot in the lounge (yes it takes up all the room!) but we can put DS2 in there and he is relatively safe in there whilst we are out of the room (to do chores/go to the toilet etc - we try and minimise leaving them together as much as possible). DS2 only goes in his bouncy chair/playgym when either me or DH are in the room with him and DS1.

Flumpy

I would give your daughter some special mummy time - maybe leave DH in charge of the 2 younger ones and take her out for tea and cake - it seems something is bothering her - is she getting on ok at school, does she feel she's lost being the princess of the family, is she worried about something.

Not sure what I'd say about sharing - my head says continue to let them share, but my gut says maybe let the 2 older ones share this week as it's half term - and then maybe when this has blown over move the girls back together - I think you're getting mixed info ie why is the baby not in with you/put her in her own room on her own - will say that I have no problems with a baby in on their own or sharing with siblings so if it's easier on the baby (with DH waking up etc) then the solution would be to keep the baby out the master bedroom.

Also maybe stop making this all about the baby - I know it's hard at this time, when they're so little but perhaps don't expect her help - not that you do - but allow her more time to play than worry about the little one ie dd can you get a nappy for me (you get it etc)

Also teach her things she can do to the baby - bring her toys, play peekaboo with her hands over her eyes - maybe that was what she was doing with the blankets???

Thanks Twims, I will try that. It is so easy to rely on her because she is abit older and can do things like get the nappies etc.... Poor DS has got the real rough end of her moodiness today she has literally screamed and shouted at him all morning until we left for a friend house. He asked why she was grumpy with him (bless) she just laughed and said 'because I want to!'

He came over and said, 'DD doesn't love me Mummy!' I had a huge lump in my throat. Bless him!!