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Whats you feeling on kids throwing things and climbing on the furniture?

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CharleeheartsherChains · 16/02/2009 21:03

My children's behaviour has greatly improved for a while now after implimenting the 1 2 3 Magic strategy but one thing i have never been to get them to stop doing is throwing and climbing everything.

Throwing - They both throw everything, clothes/ toys/ books/ cups/ plates ect, i am so sick of having this smack me in the face becuase ds1 or ds2 have lobbed it accross the room. Im pretty sure if i could get ds1 to stop doing it ds2 would follow suit. I do the 1 2 3 thing with it but they never stop and just keep doing it, any ideas?

Climbing - This is the furniture, tables., chairs, sofa ect anything they can get on, they usually run across the coffe table then onto the sofa then up onto the PC desk. Again i have counted them and punished them for it but its have never stopped them doing it.
They play loads outside and places where they can climb and throw so im not sure what to do about it. Any advice mych appreciated. They are 2 1/2 and 4.

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piscesmoon · 17/02/2009 19:04

If you don't allow it from the very start it is much easier.

Hulababy · 17/02/2009 19:09

No throwing allowed.

Climbing - she can climb on her bed, if sensible (new bunk beds) but I don't like her climbing our furniture generally.

I just like my furntiure and possessions to look nice and to be treated nicely. Have brought DD to accept this as the norm, and she simply doesn't do it. If she does lapse then she is reminded.

There are other places she can go to climb and throw, and it is not inside my home.

mloo · 17/02/2009 20:01

Yesterday -- how do you instill the habit, then? Do you have to hover constantly to pre-empt the throwing, or do you drag them kicking and screaming take them to the designated-object and designated-furniture even after they have already thrown the undesignated-object? I don't understand the practicalities of it...

FAQinglovely · 17/02/2009 20:06

ok - so how do you deal with throwing and climbing on everything with a 20 month old??

DS1 and 2 were both a bit older (and more verbal, both in their understanding and their communication) that DS3 is and although the climbing has improved - the throwing (and picking up objects and whacking his brothers with them for absolutely no reason at all, and with smiles and giggles - ie not in frustration) hasn't improved at all

kittywise · 17/02/2009 20:06

no throwing

no climbing on anything but their own bed

thisisyesterday · 17/02/2009 20:23

mloo yes, pre-empting is good if ytou can do it. if you see him getting angry then just say "x, remember, if you need to throw something your pillow is upstairs" (or whatever it is you're using)

if they've already thrown stuff then you remind them that throwing is not acceptable, and that if they need to do so that they should use the designated object, in the desired area.

FAQ I have a similar sounding ds to yours! only mine is a bit younger but my god the things he climbs! and the hitting people over the head.
I am just calmly but persistently removing him from the things he climbs, or taking away his way up (ie, he liked to drag the stool from the downstairs bathroom all over the place, we now keep the door shut)
and if he hits/throws he is told "no" very firmly and if he has hit ds1 then I do my "sad" face at him and give ds1 lots of cuddles and attention.
I don't think you can stop the behaviour in a child that young, but you can gradually teach them that it isn't acceptable rather than thinking "oh, i'll deal with it when he's older" and then having problems because they've never been challenged on it before

wb · 17/02/2009 20:43

No throwing - except stones into water/lakes (we do a lot of that) or balls, outside.

They are allowed to climb pretty much anything (but not in the kitchen or if excessively dangerous) but only in our house, never in other people's. Never had a problem with this rule.

FAQinglovely · 17/02/2009 21:41

Oh do I stop him - wouldn't dare not to. I'll take away the object, put back whatever it is he's used to hit/climb - he throws a "classic" tantrum on the floor........then goes back to repeat the process

Sad face (and floods of tears from his brothers - he's left visible bumps and bruises on them before now!) just prompts hysterical giggles from him .

fruitful · 17/02/2009 21:59

FAQ - my 14mo is perfecting his overarm-bowling technique at the moment. With everything. He just picks things up and whoooosh its gone flying across the room. Its particularly fun if he gets to the toy car box. 20 little metal missiles come flying at me (and dd and ds1) while I battle across the room to stop him. I need armour. So I remove him - and lo, it seems I've moved him closer to another source of things to throw.

I'm thinking of putting his jumper on without putting his arms in the sleeves ...

bohemianbint · 17/02/2009 22:04

What is this 123 magic thing?

DS (2 and a half) threw a Thomas the Tank at my head today, it farking hurt, I really lost the plot. Would like to know how to curb this, his behaviour's gone from bad to worse recently. He persists on jumping on the sofas and I'm at a loss how to discipline him. In general, to be honest.

piscesmoon · 17/02/2009 22:20

I agree with thisisyesterday-it is very hard work because you have to be consistent, letting it pass because you are tired gives the wrong message.

Othersideofthechannel · 18/02/2009 05:54

DCs are allowed to throw soft things downwards so long as it is not at people. Eg soft toys down from the bed.

They are also allowed to throw bouncy balls down the stairs but we don't have anything that could get damaged in the hall at the bottom.

They respect this although when they get cross about something still occasionally through a hard thing in anger but it's getting less and less frequent.

Othersideofthechannel · 18/02/2009 05:55

throw a hard thing

Astrophe · 18/02/2009 06:30

DS almost 3 throws a bit, but rarely at people, just flings things onto the floor, or around the room. For a while I was lenient on soft things (eg teddies), but he it no better so now if he throws he has a firm "No throwing", then has t go and pick up the thrown object and pack it away. Then I ask him "what do we throw?" he says "balls" and I ask "where?" and he says "outside". And then if he wants to throw a ball, he goes outside. It seems to be working, slowly. I like th approach b/c there is no shouting, and he get sreminded about the right thing to do, not just reprimanded all the time.

They climb a bit, but only on the sofa, I have never allowed climbing on tables etc, and they don't do it.

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