Fighting - calling mothers of boys for advice

[Lulu41]

My ds is in reception and has always been a typical lad likes a bit of rough and tumble - he is doing well in class and school have not notified me of any problem but whilst having a chat with a playground assistant she let me know that my ds is reprimanded practically every day for fighting - has anyone out there with experience of raising boys got any advice they can share in how to stop/lessen this behaviour. The lady in question readily admits that some of his behaviour is "boys just being boys" and I am in one sense pleased that he stands up to the bigger boys but its a very fuzzy line. Do I ban all wrestling/fighting games at home ??

Lulu

It is very difficult with boys, because most of them are rough and tumble.
Could you have a talk with him and ask him what is happening. Is someone starting on him or is he initiating the fighting?
What sort of wrestling/fighting games happen at home, and does he watch any tv involving fighting because my two do and then they start fighting themselves, so restricting tv may help.
Also I would have a word with the teacher to see what he/she says, has this just started and is their any reason they know off.

He has wrestling men figures and he likes to play rough with his Dad and likes all the boys programmes ie. Jackie Chan/Spiderman etc etc. I do talk to him and sometimes he says that bigger boys push him or hit and he hits them back other times it just seems to be a case of a game getting a bit rough or them shoving each other - his classroom teacher has not mentioned this to me just one of the ladies who assist in the playground.

My DS's(4.5) are always beating hell out of each other, and have done since they were very young.
It used to upset me alot, always having to intervine, now I just let them get on with it, as they are evenly matched.
Not sure how this tactic will help, when they go to school though, I just know their going to get into trouble, can see it comeing. They start full time in September, so I'll proberbly be posting alot after then !!!!

I had this trouble with my eldest son he has grown out of it now he is nearly 7.He also has a younger brother and they love rough and tumble.It just took some time for him to learn some social skills with other children.Because he played like this at home he thought other all kids played like it too.Try not to worry to much.Or maybe go and have a word with the teacher and explain your situation.Reception class is all about learning to socialize amongst other things and she will be aware of this and may be able to sugest something.

I'd have a word with your son's teacher. Tell her what the playground assistant has said and ask her if there is a problem. You want to know how to tackle it early on.

I also think playfighting is something most boys grow out of, so hang on in there.

I wouldn't ban all wrestling games at home. I know how impossible it is to do anyway - my sons enjoy rolling around on the floor, too. I do try and keep the westling sessions short though. I find things always ends in tears if wrestling games go on and on. Tell your sons time's up before things threaten to get out of hand - much easier to stop the game before everyone is overexcited.