DD pooing/ wetting herself

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DD aged 3.4 has been clean and dry for over a year and since December has been dry at night. She started a new nursery a few weeks ago and since then has had several accidents. Most of the time its wetting herself which I put down to her leaving it too late to go to the loo. This morning and last week she has pooed herself as well. She says she is happy at her new nursery (goes every afternoon to a pre school at a local primary). I have told her she will be taken to the loo every hour and have gone back to putting a star on her chart when she goes to the loo. Should I take this as a stage she is going through or a sign that she is unhappy at nursery? Any ideas how to deal with this? Thanks

My DD started this at about the same age, in our case we think it was down to arrival of new brother and her wanting to spend more time with us - a subconscious attention seeking thing. Is your DD doing longer hours at the new nursery? Has anything else changed that means she's getting less of your time than she was used to?

It took a while for us to get it sorted and we tried everything. In the end we just took her to the toilet really regularly, gave loads of praise when she stayed dry, tied treats like TV and sweets to longer periods of staying dry and we got there in the end. Ironically there's been a patch of it again recently though we think it's because she's getting bored at nursery and home and is actually ready for school now (September birthday so just missed out last year). We are trying the same technique as above again and although all the extra washing and ironing is driving me mental, we are getting there.

Assuming that there isn't anything physical (worm, constipation etc) then when a child who is toilet trained starts wetting themselves, it is a sign of emotional stress. It is probably her way of expressing that things in her life have changed. It doesn't necessarily mean that she is unhappy at the nursery, but that she is having to adjust to a new situation. it is quite normal when kids start nursery, get a new sibling etc. She needs reassurance, extra cuddles and low key practical approach to the toilet training - in fact just what you are doing! Don't worry it will pass.

agree with steppemum-i think she could be emotionally stressed.if the accidents are happening at nursery, perhaps she is too shy to say she needs the toilet-ask the nursery staff to take your daughter with other children, so she doesnt have to ask.if accidents are happening at home try to keep your response low key-believe me, i know this is easier said than done-my first daughter had encopresis,and i thought she would be going to school in pull-ups(she didnt).but you know if you get stressed, she will too.my son,(5), and child num.5, soils himself fairly regularly, so we use star charts,rewards etc-what is it about poo in our house?? just a thought-could she have a urine infection-small children can get them, and this could cause her to wee and soil herslf.things will sort themselves out in the end-i just need to keep telling myslf that too...