questions re a very non-independent toddler

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1. he simply will not read with anyone except me -to extent of say pushing daddy away physically (for which I have also started to sternly say no! to pushing as it is rude/mean) so today after tanturms and screams and me also honestly having enough of reading for hours (i mean hours) a day every day i left him with dad - oh the screams

was it bad to do this? all i was doing was try to make him see reading with daddy not so bad after all - plus daddy'd love to..little one did read for five mins but that was all then screaming back for me

2. left him screaming with dADDY to play trians - proper tantrum but now actually playing - i am a mouse in room on computer not knowing if have done the right thing

he will not play with anyone except me and never alone. i have to literally hold the cars for him - am exhausted this weekend and wanted hubby to play with him so he knows it is ok

if am in house he is far worse so today just locked him upstairs wiht hubby and i came down - was that ok? he is playong okish now

i just dont know what am doing...lost!

feel real bad as it probably is not a good thng to shun a little one who wants me so much for reading/playing...

3. when week starts tomorrow - how the hell do i make him play a bit on his own - evcen with me in room??? he is 18 months and understands everything but just wants sooo much of me to reasd/play etc

I totally sympathise my DS likes to have me there all the time if he could. For your own sanity you need to have a little time to yourself.

You are completely right to leave him with his dad and I hope it all get easier for you.

H xx

It won't do him any harm to have the odd tantrum. You need to get some time on your own and eventually he'll get used to playing with his daddy and become a bit more independent. You're not shunning him!! You can't be there playing with him every second of the day. It must be driving you up the wall . Hope he settles down soon.

feel awful as usually am so mean to him when he is ill or tired...looking back think he was just tired...but then he is always clingy
and i cant always play with him eveyr time he is tired

if dad is around surely he can play wtih him sometimes

You should encourage him to play with your husband and also to play alone.

Can you try and get him to sleep I take DS out in the pushchair and help him sleep.

Hxx