Advice needed on getting a 7 month old to not scream everytime she is left with anyone but Mummy and Daddy PLEASE!!

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Im due back at work in 4 weeks, my MIL has kindly offered to have my LO two days a week. Now, the problem is that everytime she goes to her, even if Im in the same room/next to her, she SCREAMS! I tried me not being there to see if that helped, I left her for 2 hours last week, no better. They came for lunch today and the same thing happened, absolute meltdown. My eldest child went to Granny 1 day a week from around 9 months and was fine, i know the're all different. My question is, Is this a development 'phase'? Is she likely to grow out of it? Is there a good way to get her used to going to Grannies? Im a bit worried.....Any suggestions/experience greatly appreciated!

Has she spent much time with your MIL in general? What about if you are there together and MIL doesn't try to pick her up - does she still scream? Maybe she has associated your MIL with being left - or soething else unpleasant...? Is your MIL a bit in her face, or overly jolly, which is intimidating her? Don't really have any answers other than spending loads of time with MIL over the next 4 weeks - maybe try her house and yours - without you leaving DD initially. Maybe even ask MIL to practically ignore her but just be present and it may get better....Fingers crossed for you

A lot of children go through a phase about this age, I don't think there is an awful lot you can do about it.

How does your MIL react when your DD screams?

will her sibling be with her when she is left with MIL as that might help?
when she comes round get her to make a huge fuss of older sibing too, loads of tickling, laughing etc and she'll soon what to join in the fun

Only my own experience to go by, but with ds it was a phase that lasted until he could walk. He hated being held by anyone but me and dh from the moment he was born until 10 months old. As soon as he could walk, fortunately an early walker, he would stay with anyone because did not need to be held by them, could just come and go as he pleased. Well, that's my reasoning anyway.