I need my kids to sleep, includes bfing and weaning issues

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I am miserable and beyond tired. dd is 2.8 months and doesnt sleep great at all. he has never slept throough the night. She would ideally love me to sit and wait for her to go to sleep i am up with her 2/3 times a night. I coslept and bf on demand with her, no routine till older. Se bfed lots at night till i stopped bfing and then had no milk at night

I swore it would be different with ds, 10 months. He slept well as a newborn, i put him down at 7 ish with dd, feed at 10 or when i go to bed and he was just waking once. Now he doesnt settle hppily in the cot, wants to bf to sleep or sleep on my shoulder. I am trying to feed him more i the day, i blw dd totally but have tried spoon feeding him extra bits of his meal to get more in him. I am even considering giving him cows milk/formula or omething as im getting sick of bfing

I am up about 8 times a night every night and cant take it anymore. DD doesnt really nap in the day so cant catch up on sleep

Ok - I will probably be struck down by the anti-CC brigade - but you can't go on like this. Try CC Lite. I know, I know, its controversial - but it works. Lots more info on other threads. Tell DD what you are going to do ( just go in every 5 mins for a quick check and no more) then just do it. Increase the time by 5 mins each time. Not with DS though. He is much too little - once you get DD sorted, you will be able to ride out growth spurts with DS and keep up the BF. Good luck.

She will sometimes settle herself off to sleep but wakes up repeatedly, she snuck into my bed with me too out of it to motice fora few nights a while ago

Do you have a husband/partner?

Why not have him get up to DD and you to DS? I found that my DS was much, much less keen to make a fuss if it 'only' meant dad would come; I mean, he loves his dad but it was me that he would bother to make a fuss for! It may help to break her of this cycle?

Just wanted to offer my support. DS and DD are pretty similar. I've got a post in sleep about it atm!

We have a small mattressin our room that DS is allowed to sleep on if he wakes in the night - would this help?

Not getting alot of sleep here either. So understand your feelings and tiredness.

I had exactly the same problem until my friend suggested looking at Dana Obleman. I am now on night 6 of her sleep plan and it is working a treat !! DD, 5mths used to only go to bed at 11pm, wake at 2am, 4am, 6-7am and NEVER napped during the day unless in the pram or car, and only then for half an hour or so. Now, she goes to bed at 8pm. has a top up BF at 11ish whenever she wakes, then generally seems to sleep til 4am for another feed then wakes at 8ish. She has been going down in her moses basket for 2-3 naps of 1 1/2 hrs during the day. IT's been great, I feel much better !! Must say though that it did take DD 2 1/2 hrs to go to sleep on the first night, but since then it's been 10 mins or much less ! Seems DD was far too overtired and couldn't get herself to sleep without feeding.
GOOD LUCK !!