Need some advice

[uclaire]

Hi there - I am new, but hoping to get some feedback/advice on my son's behaviour, he is 5 and in year 1 at school
All my worries started last October when his teacher at the time said that she had concerns about him and could we arrange to have him assessed via our GP, she didn't say what she thought might be the matter but the various issues are or were:

Not concentrating for very long and sometimes not sitting still (not always)

Sometimes not good eye contact (but he is shy and he does this when he feels uncomfortable)

He also has said he doesn't have anyone to play with, but this is getting better I think

Difficulty writing, he is not as good as he should be for his age, but is improving

If he feels he won't be able to do something (like a throwing game), then refusing to even try.

The latest thing is that he is hugging 2 other children in his class, even through they may well not really want him too. Obviously this I will make sure he stops doing as this is not fair on the other children.

Sorry for such a long post, but I wondered if anyone else has similar worries or concerns and could advise me. The last thing I should say is that he is an only child and we really don't have any problems with him at home, he (mostly) does what he is told and we have a fairly relaxed time at weekends/evening etc.

Many thanks

The lack of concentration, not sitting still, not good eye contact, difficulty writing makes him sound like a normal 5 year old boy!

Im surprised the school would worry tbh - the refusing to try because he thinks he cant do it - sounds like his confidence has been knocked and doesnt want to try because doesnt want to be laughed at or told he's stupid etc.

We had same with ds who is now 8 and i Home educated him for a year and he is far happier - have you considered the school is not right for him?

I am beginning to wonder, it is a big school, and he is in a big class (around 30). I am now even more worried as I asked his teacher for an appointment today (meeting her Monday) and got general feedback on his day - still hugging although I told him not to, and she confirmed still concerned about lack of attention (needs 1 to 1 help) and also that he sometimes doesn't do what everyone else is doing (I am not sure but imagine doing an activity or something). The worst of it is guessing what might be wrong and what they are thinking...