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7 week old and CONSTANT crying until you pick him up!HELP

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kutilputil · 06/02/2009 12:18

I REALLY DONT KNOW WHERE TO PUT THIS SO PICKED THIS TOPIC.
my 7 week old is constantly crying and this has been going on since birth but has developed into a mammoth problem.after birth he used to cry but would settle after a while but now he just wont stop till he is picked up.his crying will turn hysterical and he will go all red and cough and choke etc!but as soon as he is carried he stops and nods off....it doesn't seem like he is in any pain but its driving me insane as i cannot even pop to the loo without him losing it...pls help

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Lulumama · 06/02/2009 12:20

did you have a difficult birth?

cranial osteopathy can really help with unsettled babies

can you consider a sling to hold him close to you all the time?

Natter · 06/02/2009 12:21

You need to just hold him I'm afraid. Lulumamas idea of a sling will save your sanity

ShowOfHands · 06/02/2009 12:22

When you pick him up, how do you hold him? Is he better upright?

I'd get a sling.

It's right and normal for a baby to want to be held when it's this small but this much distress perhaps suggests he's uncomfortable.

What was the delivery like?

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kutilputil · 06/02/2009 16:12

thanks for your reply. the birth was not difficult, quiet straightforward really. as for the sling, i have tried this and he is happy in it but i find it uncomfortable and cannot get anything done with him so whats the point!he is fine in any position as long as he is being carried. what is cranial ostepathy, how can it help and where can i get it?

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Lulumama · 06/02/2009 16:13

cranial osteopahty is gentle manipulation of the baby's head and neck to realign things, many parents do swear by it for babies who are upset and hard to settle and seem uncomforatble all the time

JanuarySnail · 06/02/2009 16:16

My first dd was just like this - if it's any comfort, she was much better (ie cried much, much less and was happy on her own) by about 9 or 10 weeks.

normansmum · 06/02/2009 16:22

Have you tried swaddling? Some babies really like feeling secure. And hoovering (no idea why but some babies like it). DS1 liked to cry a lot but settled by 3 months. Hop it gets better for you soon.

normansmum · 06/02/2009 16:22

Hope even.

lililolo · 09/02/2009 02:13

Do you think it might be reflux? I used to carry my daughter a lot in a sling which made things easier, but it might be worth ruling out reflux as he may be uncomfortable when he lies down

lililolo · 09/02/2009 02:13

Do you think it might be reflux? I used to carry my daughter a lot in a sling which made things easier, but it might be worth ruling out reflux as he may be uncomfortable when he lies down

Shells · 09/02/2009 05:15

Poor you. Try and carry him as much as possible. Try different slings. It may be reflux - get stuff from the chemist to try. Try swaddling. And white noise.

Forget housework etc. It will wait. He'll only be tiny for a short while. It will get better.

foxytocin · 09/02/2009 05:18

try out a 'stretchy wrap sling'. you may be able to get one here on MN quite reasonably if you put out a shout for one.

BlueSapphire77 · 09/02/2009 07:12

Try to get a baby bjorn type carrier cheap on ebay they are FAB and you can get stuff done as well..i wash up with my LO in his and he's only 3 weeks (totally hands free yaay)

Hope things get better for you soon, ps, take some comfort from the fact he loves you so much that it is a comfort to him when you pick him up cold comfort i know but it helps keep me sane when my DS constantly wants cuddling to know i'm THE best mum and he loves me so much a cuddle from me makes him happy...well the thought works for me and stops me going loopy lol

GColdtimer · 09/02/2009 07:55

I second the cranial oeseopathy route. Mine identified some tightening in DD's next which was probably caused by her birth (she was back to back). I didn't take her until she was 1 and just wish I'd taken her when she was tiny.

BlueSapphire77 · 09/02/2009 08:58

Help Me Remember

Lord, help me remember, when I feel It's a chore,
the time will come when I'll hold her no more
asleep on my chest (the crib refused,
the blanket, the pacifier, gone unused).
What better place is there to lay her head
than against my heart, my arms her bed?
For infants grow up and leave us behind
with only memories left to remind
us of midnight walking and predawn rocking,
of soft, helpless babies unable to sleep.
So, Lord, make me patient and keep me awake
while I cradle this child, and don't let me take
for granted the moments I spend in the night
with this baby--Your gift, my joy, my delight.

foxytocin · 09/02/2009 09:09

BabyBjorns don't last as long as the stretchy wraps and a lot of people find them painful after a short time. while a stretchy wrap may seem expensive for a 'piece of cloth' they work out cheaper in the long run and better for you and your baby. There are some problems with the posture in which the BB carry the baby.

BlueSapphire77 · 09/02/2009 09:24

I didn't know this lol this is the first one i have had, just recommended it as it is good for me, i should have maybe said get a lot of diff. opinions before you buy

I also have a babasling, i find that very useful too. There are lots on the market like kari mei ect ask around before you buy anything and check out product reviews ect.

fledtoscotland · 09/02/2009 10:02

both DSs were like this i'm afraid. some babies just like to be held. also at about 7 weeks, he could have colic.

also the joys of motherhood include going to the loo with an audience .

i second the idea of a sling but it will get better. your LO has just spent 9 months being close to you so (IMO) its a lot to expect them to just lie alone without your and your heartbeat/body warmth for comfort.

enjoy it - they grow up too soon

purpleduck · 09/02/2009 10:21

My ds was like this
I just think it is THE biggest change anyone will ever have to experience - going from being inside to outside the womb - he just needs to be reassured by your presence.
I remember how hard it was though. It will get better!
Are you able to get some time to yourself at all?

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kutilputil · 09/02/2009 11:46

thankyou all ever so much for all your advice. before i begin BlueSapphire77 wow that was beautiful...even more so if you made it up all yourself....i was almost in tears...i have a three year old and everytime i look at him i ask myself where did the time go?i cant remember much and the odd occaision that i do i feel all wamr and tingy inside and want to love him and hold him even more....DS2 is i feel improving, i dont want to jinx it but bless him he is trying, its just he cannot sleep for longer than 10 minutes without waking...and when he wakes he is not in any discomfort..but slowly thw whining turns to hysteria. but come 6-7pm he knocks out completely, like yesterday...i wnet to a relatives and he played up and moaned and all the old ladies kept telling me to top him up with formula and feed him feed him!but i knew what his problem was, come 7pm he had a small feed and fell asleep, i put him in the carseat and he slept...whilst there was a party going on around him, 15 odd adults and 2 noisy toddlers all made lots of noise but he occaisionally twitched and nothing else!he finally woke a little at about 12am when i gave him his next feed....and then all night he behaves and only stirs for milk and then sleeps...until come 6-7am and the sirens are off again...but right now as i have said he is sleeping next to me...but i have given him two bolsters on each side for support...maybe he is just a very clingy child and needs to be held close....its just with ds1 it was not like this...he was amazing....but i hope ds2 will be intime.

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GColdtimer · 09/02/2009 16:05

that was lovely bluesapphire. DD was a terrible sleeper but you know, even though it was so hard, I often used to treasure those moments where it was just us. you have summed it up beautifully.

kitilputil, some babies are just more cuddly than others I think. Although CO helped DD she generally was, and still is at nearly 3, a child that needed a lot of physical affection.

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kutilputil · 10/02/2009 16:44

so how do i go about with the cranial osteopathy?

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tkband3 · 10/02/2009 16:52

You can look for an osteopath near to you here. Alternatively, if you are in or near London, you could try the foundation for paediatric osteopathy which is in Clerkenwell. They are a charity so you only pay what you can afford. If you are anywhere near Kentish Town, I could recommend my osteopath .

DD1 had cranial osteopathy from 4 weeks old as she was very unsettled and my DTs had it from 2 weeks! I think it is a fantastic way of treating babies for all sorts of things - colic, reflux, ear infections. It also really helped DT1 with painful teething.

rusmum · 10/02/2009 21:21

dd was like this from 5-19 weeks!!

I tries - colic remedies- gaviscon for reflux- everything

The minute i stopped breast feding she was better! Was obviously hungry

feralgirl · 10/02/2009 22:14

Bluesapphire, I have just totally welled up!My 10 w/o DS spends the whole afternoon most days in a sling. I second Bluesapphire's babasling vote as it's dead easy to get them in and out of it.

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