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getting a teenager up for scool!

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mumof2andmad · 04/02/2009 13:23

My 14 year old daughter has missed the school bus every day last week and this morning meaning I have also had to drive her to school. She (mostly) gets up on time but just fills the time messing around doing her makeup and hair, me shouting up the stairs at her just annoys her (and me) and she misses it. I work nights so need to sleep while they are at school and its 40 minutes round trip out of my (precious) sleep time of 6 hours a day!
I cant let her 'just take the consequences' at school of being late becuase its too far to walk and no other buses run round here! (Who said bringing your kids up in the country was ideal!?)
Any suggestions greatfully recieved as this is causing much friction between us all and hubby is also mad at her! Her (younger) sister makes it fine.
Thanks Sharon

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pagwatch · 04/02/2009 13:39

Specify a punishment in advance and stick to it as in

IF you are late then I will take your phone away for one week.
Make sure it is somethingthat is really important to her.
AND THEN ACTUALLY DO IT!

She will then be prompt

mumof2andmad · 04/02/2009 14:05

She had her laptop taken away for a week and only got it back Monday, but she still missed the bus today! I was considering taking her make away or this is this too cruel?

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keepingitRia · 04/02/2009 14:11

mumof2 - I have just logged back on especially to suggest taking away her make up, but was also wondering if it's a bit harsh. (have been pondering while washing up)

What would happen at school if you didn't take her just once? (not an ideal situation regularly, but as a one-off if the school deal with it seriously?) we are rural too so rely on the school buses.

But, on the other hand, a couple of days with her mates and no make up might make her prioritise? I have 3 boys so don't know much about girls, but when DS1 is late because he's been playing on his DS I take it away. (have just had a long battle with him over priorities and am getting not very far).

keepingitRia · 04/02/2009 14:13

if the make-up is the main distraction then taking it away should solve the problem?

LongDroopyBoobyLady · 04/02/2009 14:14

Eh, taking away her make-up? She's going to school not out clubbing! Take it away and hide alarm clocks under her bed set to go off at ten minute intervals starting at 6.30am!

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mumof2andmad · 04/02/2009 14:19

Thanks for your replies. I think I will warn her tonight that if she misses the bus again the make up is gone for a week (or should I say a day?). I reckon she'll only do it once and freak if she h as to go out without it. Mind you she will probably refuse to go in point blank!
Fingers crossed the threat will do the trick!

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morningpaper · 04/02/2009 14:22

I once lodged with a single mum who had two teenagers. Her house rule was that she hoovered the entire house from top to bottom at 6.30 every day. At first I thought it was odd - but now I realise it was just a cunning ruse to wake everyone up!

mumof2andmad · 05/02/2009 10:38

Success! I told her last night that she would lose her makeup for a week if not on the school bus and she was up at 6am and in the shower this morning. Still cut it fine in leaving at 8.05am (I dont know how it takes her that long!) but she made the bus!
Hurrah!!!

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Stayingsunnygirl · 05/02/2009 15:07

I was going to suggest whipping off the duvet and giving her face a brisk wash with a nice cold wet flannel - oh, and then leave with the duvet. However, as you've had success with the threat of makeup removal, you don't need my evil mind here.

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