How do I stop a nearly 4 yr old from biting..?

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Title says it all really..

DD started pre school 6 months ago and behaviour wise is testing my patience.
Doesn't bite at pre school BUT does once home...me, dd, ds (2 yr)....

We have tried taking her away from situation and sitting her alone for a few mins, or shouting or even biting back BUT no change. She knows its wrong and I guess does it for attention BUT how do we stop it.?

HELP Please.....tia x

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thanks pr...

ANYONE offer any advice..? Im desperate and its causing issues between dh & i .

give ALL attention to the bitee, but not too much (so if you or DH just do nothing).

Do not even look at her for a full 4 minutes

after four minutes say, it's time to say sorry.

then leave it at that

she knows it wrong, she wants attention. Give her none (My DS was a pusher).

MAke sure you and DH agree to do this for at least a week otherwise if one of you blow up she will start up again

good luck

Thanks nookie..I spoke to the hv today who suggested the same...must admit I was a bit ..after all the last few attempts of you advice from my hv have been a waste..BUT I will try this suggestion. Seen as you have had results from it...

what do you do if you are out of the room (making dinner) and she bites ds..do you take time away from dinner, attention on ds and ignore her..?

Thing is she comes up wanting hugs/playing which turn into rough play, into torment and them a bite/nip iykiwm...makes me scared to go near her (silly I know..)

sorry..meant to say "last few attempts of advice from HV".

awwww

yes turn your attention away immediately the bite occurs.

You may want to react, to say no, pop on the naughty step - that is up to you

BUT

ignore ignore ignore

fuss the bitten victim, no dark looks or frosty atmosphere once you have brought her back into the fold IYSWIM

Some people like to get the child to say sorry but this could be counter productive in that you are again giving attention to the unwanted behaviour

PLEASE REMEMEBER to catch her being good - masses of praise, lots of lovely eyecontact, and short hugs (too long and she might be tempted to nip)and repeat after me

'This too shall pass'

Good luck

i had to take my son upstairs and put him in his room for 5 minutes or so when he was at his worse. it's horrible but it worked along with other things.

they get frustrated and the only way they can show it is with biting or hitting.

after they cool down then you speak to them.

see, we never needed a naughty step or time out room BUT this wkd things have been awful and we have given it a go.

The room was a waste as it was her bedroom and more like "party time" for her so we have taken to putting her on the mat by the door. She stays there if a little noisey .

Right, so I ignore her, take her away if needed but attention to who's been bitten...

BUT she always comes back and does it again and even comments in the biting. Like saying "is that my teeth on your neck mummy" .

We do praise her when she is good but atm seems to be bad more often than good .

dalp, I so hope it changes...I can't cope with anything more testing me...
I have gone from having such a loving little girl to a beast .

it's hard but you have to teach her some ways to deal with her anger (lol).

try some role playing and pretend you're the victim, show her how it feels.

get her to count to ten everytime she feels angry.

sorry to waffle but my son is very hot tempered. it's ways i've learnt to deal with it.